I assume they (the Sai bhakta-s) should also start destroying mūrtayaḥ, because that's also where the Islamic religion "is at." In fact, Muhammad even incorporated the Midrāshic story of pimp Avraham destroying idols into the unholy Qur'ān and when he [the pedo-prophet, بول الله عليه وسلم] entered the Ka'aba in Makkah, he destroyed all the idols of the pagans. I don't know about you, but I'm not willing to engage in adharma solely in order to "break bread" with another religious group.
Right/Wrong is always not black and white. Meat eating is one of those not so clear for all cultures and all times case of dharma/adharma. Shirdi Sai Baba was allowing this practice where it already was part of the culture. He would never condone destroying murtayah or any similar things. Satya Sai Baba prescribed vegetarianism only; grey areas can vary with the times.
Evil is evil, and in my opinion killing a female cow and/or eating it's flesh is not an activity that one can "compromise" on.
Do you realize you're a product of a culture? A westerner can easily say 'what's the moral difference between a female and male cow?'. And you're culture is not the only one in the world. Shirdi Sai Baba is a multi-culturalist both Hindu and Muslim as those were the two main groups in His part of the world.
I don't care whether it's "lawful" for Muslims, because I don't care what demon "Allah" thinks; all I know is that I'm not willing to eat the flesh of an killed animal unless placed in a situation where such an action is necessary. Perhaps I might be criticized for taking a "holier-than-thou" approach with regards to vegetarianism, but it breaks my heart when I hear of the hundreds of thousands of animals which killed in slaughter-houses as well as during religious ceremonies/festivals (including Hindu ones, such as the saptabali during Gadhimai).
I even share your sentiments about slaughter. I'm a vegetarian too.
Using your strange logic, shouldn't I also eat the flesh of my mother once she dies; I hear there are cannibal tribes in Papua New Guinea so shouldn't I start "breaking bread" with them as well for the sake of "brotherhood" and "universalism"?
In the spectrum of white/grey/black, I'm sure Shirdi Sai Baba would call cannabalism black. Animal meat eating is not so clear.
I'm sorry, but I can't see myself voluntary engaging in such a heinous crime and take the view that Bhagavān is not going to hold me accountable or remove the pāpa-karma resulting from the adhārmika action. Did Śrī Viṣṇu simply allow Kaiṭabha and Madhu to engage in their adharma? Did Śrī Nārasiṃha allow Hiraṇyakaśipu to engage in his adharma? Did Śrī Rāma simply allow Rāvaṇa to kidnap Sītā (and kill Jaṭāyu) without any consequences or allow Kabandha to simply eat Lakṣmaṇa? Did Śrī Kṛṣṇa allow Śiśupāla and Kaṃsa to simply engage in their adharma?
Again I agree, but meat eating is not always so clearly dharmic/adharmic for everyone.
I never understood why people like comparing a random Sufi faqīr like Shirdi Sai Bābā (or his afro-headed "reincarnation," Satya Sai Bābā to someone as great as Śrī Dattātreya, although I guess it's not too different than how people listen to Amṛtvāṇi-s for people like Kabīr.
I personally consider the two Sai Babas Avatars. (yes the 'random Sufi faqir' and the 'afro-headed reincarnation')
Perhaps I'm being a bit too "intolerant" and/or sectarian in my beliefs, I don't know.
At least you said it, not me