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Sex or Love
- Thread starter chinu
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First, it depends on how one defines love.
In my definition, i can't love someone only because of sex, or a great sexual experience, as my definition of love by necessity requires things that are not nearly accomplished or even touched at all by having sex.
If i love someone, and obviously you mean someone i could want to have sex with in this case, then, in my definition of love, there's no possibility that i would not want to have sex with them.
Again i think it just depends on how one is defining love.
If i define love as an intense desire towards someone, and willing to be around them, and that's it, then that could result from just one sexual experience, and actually much less.
chinu
chinu
Dangerous.. I think
chinu
chinu
That's lovely.
What was your reason for asking?That's lovely.
chinu
chinu
I feel shy
NobodyYouKnow
Misanthropist
It all depends on whether I just want to have sex or 'make love'.
Shy about what?I feel shy
chinu
chinu
What is making love ?
chinu
chinu
NobodyYouKnow
Misanthropist
Preferrably, I won't have sex with anybody I am not in love with, because I am a very passionate person who tends to hold nothing back...which can get just a tad embarrassing as well...there must be that understanding there...What is making love ?
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Have you ever had sex with someone because you love them, or love them because you had sex with them?If I told than it will not remain a shy.
So, I will not tell
NobodyYouKnow
Misanthropist
In addition, before I run right away, I also know how to do the 'Tantric sex thing' the correct way, so I gotta be very careful who I have sex with - only love can take the full force of that, my friend....only love.
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chinu
chinu
oldbadger
Skanky Old Mongrel!
Thank heavens for that. At last! The first mention of 'making love' that I have read on this forum in 1.5 years. Maybe I wasn't reading the right threads,...?
Everybody seems to be 'having sex', or thinking of it, or talking of it. At the point where both lovers becomes focused on sending their partner as far as possible into total ecstasy, a new condition 'becomes', and the couple make love. And it is wonderful (for me) beyond any 'sex' I ever had.
The reason why I want to lay with my partner (my wife) is because:-
I love her.
I fancy her.
I trust her.
I need her.
Sex is nowhere close to love.
Chinu! How old are you? (I'm a bit older than Penumbra)
chinu
chinu
I am 35
NobodyYouKnow
Misanthropist
Totally! Absolutely!
Then, when you are lost in that love, in a moment of passion, there is no more physical separation of lover and beloved. Heartbeat, breath, body merge as one and love becomes the product of itself, lost to the realms of the Infinite.
To join with another soul through the physical act of lovemaking is a total joy beyond compare. It goes way beyond lust and carnal desire - I mean they are very nice to feel as a 'by product' of it, but it's not the driving force - love is.
In the total immersion in love's embrace, one can also merge with God (can't do that by just 'having sex').
At first, I felt a bit uncomfortable talking about all this - then I saw how ironic it was that a Tantrika felt all embarrassed to discuss her sexuality...
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Wherenextcolumbus
Well-Known Member
Got any tips?
NobodyYouKnow
Misanthropist
Just some basic ones (I don't want to set a precedent):
Sit facing each other (about 2ft apart), just gazing into each other's eyes for the longest time - do Trataka (focused dhyan) on your partner's eyes for 15-20 minutes.
During that time, synchronise your breathing, gaze into each other's eyes and breathe together, slowing it right down as you do so...feel all the natural rhythms of your partner's body flowing through their breath.
Take your time. Tantric Sex is all about holding it back until you just can't anymore - the longer the better - if you don't climax at all, even better still.
After gazing and slowing down the breath, Start with exploration, just asexual exploration of your partner's body...their hair...their fingertips...their toenails...softly caress every square inch very slowly ('slowly' is the key word in all of this).
As you caress their body, concentrate on the exchange of vibration and energy through your hands, tongue etc...don't give in to desire...don't give into lust. Tantric Sex is the biggest tease out there...the foreplay can last for hours...
*and that's all I can say. lol
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Wherenextcolumbus
Well-Known Member
Sounds great