Should you have sex with only one person?

[leahrachelle]

Well..my mother was 28 when my father(who was also 28) died unexpectantly in a plane crash.

My mother remarried..Im sure you "couldnt see your self doing that". ..

Neither could my mother..Untill it happened.

You are more devoted to "one person" than my mother is.

I salute you...

Love

Dallas

It's not just the aspect of being with one person, though. My boyfriend of 3 years - I just could never see myself wanting to be with another person. If he died, I don't feel I could ever move on. I guess you just know when your soulmate comes along.

 

[leahrachelle]

Ha my bad, I have no clue why I did that. I was dozing off I guess..
1 and a half years, sorry.

 

[Smoke]

Once you've found true love, you'll find that you have all the things you're looking for..

Not necessarily. I truly loved my first husband, and I think he truly loved me, but we couldn't live together. Love is wonderful, and I'd never want to be with somebody I didn't love, but love isn't all you need to build to a life together. I missed him terribly after I left, and I never really got over him till after he died, but we just couldn't live together happily. I've been very fortunate to find that kind of love again, and this time with somebody I can live with, but it definitely takes more than just love.

 

[DallasApple]

It's not just the aspect of being with one person, though. My boyfriend of 3 years - I just could never see myself wanting to be with another person. If he died, I don't feel I could ever move on. I guess you just know when your soulmate comes along.

My mother still mourns over the loss of my father(37 years later)..She loved him .They loved each other.

The fact that she could love someone else doesnt mean they werent "soul mates".

Your childish visions and proclamations of what you "would" feel or "would do" in any given situation really irritates me..I shouldnt even respond to you.

I will just say..good luck with that.

Love

DAllas

 

[pray4me]

It's not just the aspect of being with one person, though. My boyfriend of 3 years - I just could never see myself wanting to be with another person. If he died, I don't feel I could ever move on. I guess you just know when your soulmate comes along.

You are only sixteen, you've had a boyfriend since you were thirteen. I think that's a little young to be making a lifetime commitment. You might find in a couple years that you feel differently and then you might feel trapped into a relationship you've outgrown. I think anyone who wants to have that kind of relationship should wait until they are at least legally of age to make it. I'm sure you feel deeply for your boyfriend but you are still very young.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

It's not just the aspect of being with one person, though. My boyfriend of 3 years - I just could never see myself wanting to be with another person. If he died, I don't feel I could ever move on. I guess you just know when your soulmate comes along.

Ha my bad, I have no clue why I did that. I was dozing off I guess..
1 and a half years, sorry.

Heh... I can't help thinking back to my ex-fiancee: at a year and a half, everything was rosy. Less than a year later, we weren't on speaking terms. In retrospect, I don't think she was ever really my "soulmate", even though I thought it at the time.

 

[Stellify]

Heh... I can't help thinking back to my ex-fiancee: at a year and a half, everything was rosy. Less than a year later, we weren't on speaking terms. In retrospect, I don't think she was ever really my "soulmate", even though I thought it at the time.

Heh...I thought of my ex-fiancee, too....we started dating when I was sixteen. *shakes head*
I've grown a lot since then. And I hope I will continue to do so

 

[DallasApple]

Oh and "by the way" I cant see myself being with anyonoe else if my husband of 20 years dropped dead tomorrow.I met him when I was 14.He is part of me and always will be.

And its possible I wouldn't ever "fall" for anyone else in his memory or because I just wanted him and no one else..

But if I did??Fall again? It would be because I had two soul mates..And they both would be real special guys to put up with my ***.And real special because Im a fine catch and they both knew it.

Love

Dallas

 

[Nanda]

I don't believe in "soul mates," per se, but I know for a fact that you can love more than one person (even at the same time) in a deep, intimate, meaningful way.

 

[leahrachelle]

My mother still mourns over the loss of my father(37 years later)..She loved him .They loved each other.

The fact that she could love someone else doesnt mean they werent "soul mates".

Your childish visions and proclamations of what you "would" feel or "would do" in any given situation really irritates me..I shouldnt even respond to you.

I will just say..good luck with that.

Love

DAllas

I also won't respond to terms that mean the same as 'childish' any longer..

 

[leahrachelle]

You are only sixteen, you've had a boyfriend since you were thirteen. I think that's a little young to be making a lifetime commitment. You might find in a couple years that you feel differently and then you might feel trapped into a relationship you've outgrown. I think anyone who wants to have that kind of relationship should wait until they are at least legally of age to make it. I'm sure you feel deeply for your boyfriend but you are still very young.

And I think I will prove you wrong.

 

[methylatedghosts]

So we have to get in their pants to figure out their personality?

Nope - I'm merely suggesting that you can discover a whole lot more about people in sexual relationships.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

And I think I will prove you wrong.

I hope you do.

I know one or two couples who hit it off at a very young age and have been happily together ever since... but they're a very slim minority.

If you can make it work, great. However, I don't think that any personal failing on your part would be implied if you can't... and I don't think your experience so far is applicable generally to humanity as a whole; not everyone fits the same mold that you do... and that's okay.

 

[DallasApple]

I also won't respond to terms that mean the same as 'childish' any longer..

I guess only time will tell.I have no doubt that you may still be with your boyfriend 60 years from now.

But the idea that if he got hit by a bus tomorrow..that you just "know" that you would never want anyone else romantically for the next 60 years because he is your "soul mate" is ..well lets just say naive.Maybe you wouldnt.You would forego love ..marriage and children with someone else that loved you ..in loving memory of your soul mate.I just for some reason I highly doubt the probalbilites of that .

Love

Dallas

 

[Mister Emu]

Yes...

edit: I should elaborate... under ideal circumstances, yes...

 

[Guitar's Cry]

Yes. Only one person.

And that person must be genetically-compatible with you in order to yield acceptable offspring.

The government should get in on this.

 

[methylatedghosts]

Yes. Only one person.

And that person must be genetically-compatible with you in order to yield acceptable offspring.

The government should get in on this.

I like the sound of Gattaca, do you?

 

[Guitar's Cry]

At a time?
I think not!

The more the merrier!

Amen, sister!

 

[Guitar's Cry]

I like the sound of Gattaca, do you?

Yes! I couldn't think of the name of that film to save my life...

 

[leahrachelle]

I guess only time will tell.I have no doubt that you may still be with your boyfriend 60 years from now.

But the idea that if he got hit by a bus tomorrow..that you just "know" that you would never want anyone else romantically for the next 60 years because he is your "soul mate" is ..well lets just say naive.Maybe you wouldnt.You would forego love ..marriage and children with someone else that loved you ..in loving memory of your soul mate.I just for some reason I highly doubt the probalbilites of that .

Love

Dallas

You just arn't me, to put it simply