That is what I meant. Some people have a talent for music or sport, others don't. The trick is to recognize what you are good at, and develop those skills to the best of your ability. Sure, you can try things for which you don't have a lot of talent, and you might enjoy it, but you'll never be a star performer. As long as you don't mind that, hey, that's great.
So same with gender identity. If you identify as female, but are otherwise "pricked out for women's pleasure" (as Shakespeare wrote in Sonnet 20), then you have to find a way to be who you are. And "who you are" is a thing of the mind, not the body.