Ok, you're handicapped. I have two friends who are quadriplegic, three with significant brain damage, one that's post-stroke, two friends and one family member with Asperger's, a family member who's got Cerebral Palsy, one who's blind, and one with Down's. None of them display the kind of entitlement you've displayed here. Additionally, I have three family members who are gay and numerous gay friends, who've had to endure systemic, social shame and disenfranchisement their entire adult lives. Yeah, they're defensive. They have every excuse to be so. Your handicap doesn't give you cause to complain because Jo's being perceived as "defensive." Even with your handicap, that's not the same thing as social disenfranchisement, which is the issue of this thread. It's too bad you've been bullied because of your handicap -- no one should have to endure that, but you're still a member of the privileged majority. Heck, Roosevelt had Polio and Kennedy suffered from debilitating scoliosis. Everybody suffers from something.