if we claim to adhere to democracy, won't we have to accept it? I can't think of a way not to be a hypocrite otherwise.
In my opinion, you're not being a hypocrite if you don't accept a Trump victory.
In a practical sense you wouldn't have a choice, first because you're not American, and second because even Americans will have to live with that.
but psychologically, nobody should accept a Trump win. He's an enemy of democracy and intended to end it and install himself as president from life and above the law. Those aren't principles that one who loves democracy ever need to simply say, "Oh well, he won fair and square, and so I must be content with the will of the people." No. At that point, if there were any way to prevent that legal or illegal, it should be done. Of course, there wouldn't be, but I'm talking about acceptance.
Trump falsely claims that the 2020 election was stolen from him. Even if that were true, as undemocratic as it would be to fix and steal an election, it would be the pro-democratic move assuming you ever want to see democracy in the States again.
Maybe you're familiar with Popper's Paradox, which addresses an analogous situation regarding tolerance:
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If everyone is tolerant of every idea, then intolerant ideas will emerge. Tolerant people will tolerate this intolerance, and the intolerant people will not tolerate the tolerant people."
It's not hypocritical to be intolerant of the intolerant to preserve tolerance in a society, and in my opinion, it's not hypocritical to refuse to be OK with democratic processes that threaten democracy.
This is a sickness. You cannot see truth through your hate. It is sad. All you have is incoherent bizarre conjecture.
The sickness is all yours.
Trump's hatred *IS* the truth, a truth you either can't see or condone.
Here's more paradox. If you love love, then you likely hate its enemies and defend love from them in unloving ways if necessary. Contempt for Trump is an expression of love of country. You don't shame anybody by pointing out that they hate Trump except yourself for failing to do the same.
We see more of this type of paradox with so-called peace officers (police). To protect or restore the peace, sometimes they must resort to physical force including tasers and guns.