The Random, Meaningless Announcements Thread 3!

[Shadow Wolf]

Less sucky than sitting on a freeway exit asking for cash.

Yes, but wish for once someone in my life would encourage me to aim higher than that.

 

[Wu Wei]

Or what? You'll smite us?

Maul not smite..sheesh...I shouldn't have to explain these things...I mean @Revoltingest got it...can't set the bar much lower than that

 

[Stevicus]

 

[Stonetree]

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Something very similar happened to me.

 

[Kathryn]

Yes, but wish for once someone in my life would encourage me to aim higher than that.

Self motivation.

 

[Wu Wei]

Self motivation.

 

[sun rise]

Yes, but wish for once someone in my life would encourage me to aim higher than that.

I once had an interview where I went over my issues finding a work/career path who told me very directly something like: what can you do that people will pay to you do. I went home and thought for a while and realized that I liked computers, I was good at it and people would pay me to work with computers. I spent the following year+ taking a computer course, writing resumes that I dropped off in various places when finally I got a break in a temp job that turned into a career.

Part of the aim higher is having at least an outline of a goal in a few, 5 or 10 years.

Sometimes that does not work out. We all cheered when you became a certified people stabber and found a job. But even if the people were wonderful your body isn't.

You mentioned an online store where you could sell creations. That could work - there are many on Etsy that do creative things and use the Etsy web site to get noticed. There are some who can be successful going it alone though there's a lot more work involved.

I'm sure I'm not the only one here who want to cheer you on to find something that really works for you in the long term.

 

[Wu Wei]

 

[Shadow Wolf]

We all cheered when you became a certified people stabber and found a job.

Yes. I am grateful. But I'm also pre-Matrix and know, understand and feel it's not the same as real, face to face interactions.
I also tend to be overly cynical with this. My brother did support me and encourage me, but he died a few years ago. I also get some encouragement from my friends here. But overall I've been mostly alone and having to carry myself through, and especially over these past few years it's left me feeling I'm the only one in my life who actually wants to see me succeed. That's not really true, but it's rare I find anyone who does. It's usually more like my current job, where they say the do (like a robotic, corporate script) but their actions and how they've handled my training suggests the opposite of that.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Self motivation.

That's mostly all I've had.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Yyeeeeeess! It needs a rainbow flag.

 

[We Never Know]

Yes, but wish for once someone in my life would encourage me to aim higher than that.

Your choices are up to you. Your control your own aims.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Your choices are up to you. Your control your own aims.

It's not about choices. It's about the fact the story of my life is others doubt me and don't think I'll be able to do anything. Go on disabilities, they tell me. Once just because I'm autistic (amd that was a doctor).
Probably no surprise my parents who heavily criticized me as a kid and always found where I ****ed up are the biggest proponents of me going on disabilities. Even now, employed, working, getting a business going they want me to go on disabilities and hope this can turn into regular disabilities.
I even started to fall into a bad crowd at one point because it was someone who believed in me, gave me a chance and made me feel appreciated.

 

[We Never Know]

It's not about choices. It's about the fact the story of my life is others doubt me and don't think I'll be able to do anything. Go on disabilities, they tell me. Once just because I'm autistic (amd that was a doctor).
Probably no surprise my parents who heavily criticized me as a kid and always found where I ****ed up are the biggest proponents of me going on disabilities. Even now, employed, working, getting a business going they want me to go on disabilities and hope this can turn into regular disabilities.
I even started to fall into a bad crowd at one point because it was someone who believed in me, gave me a chance and made me feel appreciated.

Yes its about choices. As you said you are working and trying to get a business going. Stick with that and move forward.

If you don't want to file for disablity, why are you considering it? Because your parents want you to? You are an adult, its your choice.

Many times a person just has to believe in theirself and use that confidence and motivation.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Yes its about choices. As you said you are working and trying to get a business going. Stick with that and move forward.

If you don't want to file for disablity, why are you considering it? Because your parents want you to? You are an adult, its your choice.

Many times a person just has to believe in theirself and use that confidence and motivation.

I'm saying I wish I had people in my life to encourage me and offer emotional support. That I'm tired of people telling me to file for disabilities.
It's not about choice, it's about wanting people in my life who tell me I can instead of I can't.
That's nothing about choices. And being on medical leave I was told I have to apply for disabilities. After I did over a year (though granted I thought I really was done for that time due to severe pains in my other arm).

 

[We Never Know]

I'm saying I wish I had people in my life to encourage me and offer emotional support. That I'm tired of people telling me to file for disabilities.

I never required that so I can't relate.

It's not about choice, it's about wanting people in my life who tell me I can instead of I can't.

When anyone told me I can't, all that did was motivate me more.

That's nothing about choices. And being on medical leave I was told I have to apply for disabilities. After I did over a year (though granted I thought I really was done for that time due to severe pains in my other arm).

I live with pain daily. It motivates me. However pain affects people differently.

Some good advice to remember.. 'The less you do, the less you will be able to do'. That's true in many things in life, especially as we age.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I never required that so I can't relate.

It's actually a basic human need. There is no shortage of research and studies showing we do better with a support system. This is because we are social animals.

When anyone told me I can't, all that did was motivate me more.

You want a cookie?

I live with pain daily. It motivates me. However pain affects people differently.

Some good advice to remember.. 'The less you do, the less you will be able to do'. That's true in many things in life, especially as we age.

Some good advice for you is actually listen to what people are saying. Pain? Motivation? Choice? You aren't even close to what I'm saying.

 

[We Never Know]

It's actually a basic human need. There is no shortage of research and studies showing we do better with a support system. This is because we are social animals.

As I said I didn't require it

You want a cookie?

Not from you. Trying to be social and you become a smart ***. No surprise there.

Some good advice for you is actually listen to what people are saying. Pain? Motivation? Choice? You aren't even close to what I'm saying.

Lol. Whatever. Go be a follower and do what you are told.

Btw, my advice was good. Its a good rule of life. Its just not the pity you were seeking.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

As I said I didn't require it

You're human. You require it but just don't know it.

Not from you. Trying to be social and you become a smart ***. No surprise there.

I don't see it as a positive social when you keep getting wrong what I'm saying even after I've corrected you. I was saying I wish I didn't have to motivate and carry myself and I'm tired of having disabilities brought up in my life and here you come along with stuff about choices and pain and finding motivation.

Btw, my advice was good. Its a good rule of life. Its just not the pity you were seeking.

Yes. It is. I mentioned here not too long ago something that sucks about almost being 40 is it's everybody else who has slowed down. But your advice in response to my post is entirely and utterly irrelevant to my situation, especially since I've stayed very busy since I went on medical leave.

Lol. Whatever. Go be a follower and do what you are told.

In this case, so I get paid and don't risk losing my job over a denied leave, yeah I'm gonna do as I'm told I have to.

 

[sun rise]

Yes. I am grateful. But I'm also pre-Matrix and know, understand and feel it's not the same as real, face to face interactions.
I also tend to be overly cynical with this. My brother did support me and encourage me, but he died a few years ago. I also get some encouragement from my friends here. But overall I've been mostly alone and having to carry myself through, and especially over these past few years it's left me feeling I'm the only one in my life who actually wants to see me succeed. That's not really true, but it's rare I find anyone who does. It's usually more like my current job, where they say the do (like a robotic, corporate script) but their actions and how they've handled my training suggests the opposite of that.

That sucks all right. @JustGeorge has written the same thing - wishing for IRL human connections.