Why are Some Men Sexually Interested in Lesbians?

[Sunstone]

Does having sex with a bi-sexual woman count?

A bisexual woman might be sexually interested in me, and, if she was, that would not count to me as an experience of having sex with an unresponsive woman who was not interested in having sex with me.

So far as I'm concerned, one of the worse experiences I've ever had in my life was having sex with an unresponsive woman who was obviously not interested in having sex with me. I've known a few lesbians, and I love and cherish a few of the lesbians I've known -- but it's a platonic kind of love for me. Something inside me just does not get off on attempting to make love to someone who is not sexually interested in me. Indeed, that's the world's biggest anti-aphrodisiac for me.

 

[Gloone]

I have had lesbians or bi-sexual women come over to my house that I had never really talked to except for maybe once. I don’t know how they found out where I lived. Some people just look for sex and not so much a relationship I guess. If the sex is good then maybe a relationship can grow out of it. That is my philosophy on it. Freaks like to have a lot of sex and if you are a freak chances are you want another freak to have sex with. I don’t think I would want it any other way. So she can be straight, bi, les, w/e. I have never made it a priority to have sex with lesbians or bisexual ladies either. It is just something that happens honestly. I really don't think about sexual preference when I am interested in talking to someone. Usually the bi-les thing comes out later. LOL - That is kind of funny now that I think about it.

 

[LuisDantas]

More boobs and not having to show a performance? I often feel objectified by my own penis. Of course I find lesbians attractive.

Then again, I was never actually in bed with a full-blown lesbian, AFAIK. But from a close distance they are certainly appealing.

 

[Sunstone]

More boobs and not having to show a performance? I often feel objectified by my own penis. Of course I find lesbians attractive.

Then again, I was never actually in bed with a full-blown lesbian, AFAIK. But from a close distance they are certainly appealing.

I agree Lesbians can be as attractive as anyone else. Just think of Meow Mix and Autodidact, for instance. Both of them have enough brains, among other qualities, to make even a bloodless turnip think they're attractive people. But once I find out someone is a lesbian, Luis, whatever misguided sexual attraction that might have been there goes down the drain pretty darn fast, although I may still remain attracted to the person as a person.

 

[The Neo Nerd]

A bisexual woman might be sexually interested in me, and, if she was, that would not count to me as an experience of having sex with an unresponsive woman who was not interested in having sex with me.

So far as I'm concerned, one of the worse experiences I've ever had in my life was having sex with an unresponsive woman who was obviously not interested in having sex with me. I've known a few lesbians, and I love and cherish a few of the lesbians I've known -- but it's a platonic kind of love for me. Something inside me just does not get off on attempting to make love to someone who is not sexually interested in me. Indeed, that's the world's biggest anti-aphrodisiac for me.

I agree with everything Sunny said here.

I've been with two girls who haven't seemed to really want to do it and he's right it just didn't do it for me.

Actually it kinda made me angry, if they didn't really want to have sex why didn't they say something.

 

[ConfusedKuri]

I agree with everything Sunny said here.

I've been with two girls who haven't seemed to really want to do it and he's right it just didn't do it for me.

Actually it kinda made me angry, if they didn't really want to have sex why didn't they say something.

Ehh...most men are not that willing to understand why women would refuse to have sex(I'm speaking from my own experience here).

As for the lesbian stuff I wondered the same, maybe it's the whole three-some imagination they have, I'll never get behind the ideas of three-somes, what's so great about it?

 

[The Neo Nerd]

As for the lesbian stuff I wondered the same, maybe it's the whole three-some imagination they have, I'll never get behind the ideas of three-somes, what's so great about it?

2 Girls at one time, well it's a lot of fun.

I think the best thing for me was watching my GF go down on another girl.

 

[LuisDantas]

Ehh...most men are not that willing to understand why women would refuse to have sex(I'm speaking from my own experience here).

As for the lesbian stuff I wondered the same, maybe it's the whole three-some imagination they have, I'll never get behind the ideas of three-somes, what's so great about it?

Hoping to receive what one wants while not necessarily having to pay it back, I assume.

 

[ConfusedKuri]

2 Girls at one time, well it's a lot of fun.

I think the best thing for me was watching my GF go down on another girl.

I'm not talking about that kind of three-some, I'm talking about the three-some where you start sharing your girl with your brother, cousin, or best friend?

 

[Reverend Rick]

I agree Lesbians can be as attractive as anyone else. Just think of Meow Mix and Autodidact, for instance. Both of them have enough brains, among other qualities, to make even a bloodless turnip think they're attractive people. But once I find out someone is a lesbian, Luis, whatever misguided sexual attraction that might have been there goes down the drain pretty darn fast, although I may still remain attracted to the person as a person.

I believe you present a better argument for why you would not want to have sex with someone a second time. Call me an optimist.

 

[Ubjon]

All I know is that lesbian sex is enjoyable to watch. I am attracted to women so that isn't a particually strange thing in itself. I've been sexually attracted to lesbians before and I've known gay men who were sexually attracted to me (I'm a heterosexual male) but its never once been an issue. If I know a girls lesbian then I wouldn't bother making any advances and those men who have made advances towards me made no fuss when I said I wasn't interested.

I would argue that the sexuality of a person you are attracted is irrelevent and whats important is that you respect their decision to accept or rebute your advances.

 

[Koldo]

I believe it has all been said already.

Your question is just like asking "Why do you watch porn if you will never be able to have sex with those women?"

Sexual interest is not related to the real possibility of having sex with someone, it is something in the imaginary which may or may not come true.

 

[Sunstone]

Your question is just like asking "Why do you watch porn if you will never be able to have sex with those women?"

I don't think so. If anything, the question is just like asking, "Why do you want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to have sex with you?'

 

[Koldo]

Like i said,
Sexual interest is not related to the real possibility of having sex with someone, it is something in the imaginary which may or may not come true. In the imaginary, the lesbians may have interest for you.

Why would you have sexual interest for a porn star (or a lesbian ) if it is very unlikely she will want to have sex with you?

Do keep in mind that many men do not think of lesbians as an impossibility. Lesbians are often seen with a possibilty to become bisexual at some point.

Would you still have sexual interest for an heterosexual girl even if she said she doesn't want to have sex with you? Surely. Does that mean you will have sex with her now? Obviously not. Will you think that it is possible for her to want to have sex with you at some point? Yep.

 

[Reverend Rick]

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If you recall in this movie, attraction and sexual satisfaction where complete opposites. Until people actually have sex with one another, there is no proof positive if it will be enjoyable or not.

While Sunstone makes an excellent assumption that Lesbians would not enjoy hetero sex, there really is no guarantee either way.

I'm sure many hetero males will maintain they would not enjoy homosexual activities, but there is only one way to know for sure.

 

[GabrielWithoutWings]

This is something I've never understood. Why are some men apparently interested in sex with lesbians? How is it possible to be interested in having sex with someone who is not interested in having sex with you? I would think just the thought of it alone is enough to creep someone out. So how come some people are turned on by it?

Don't misunderstand: Offline, I have a few friends who are lesbians and they are awesome people. It's just that I'm not sexually interested in them.

Because they're still women and I'm attracted to women. Lesbians have it great, in my opinion. They get all the wonderful girly parts to play with and then can grab toys and strap ons that will always remain ready to go if they're feeling in a mood to do that.

 

[tumbleweed41]

I am not at all interested in sex with a lesbian. Now a couple of female bisexuals on the other hand....

 

[Sunstone]

Sexual interest is not related to the real possibility of having sex with someone....

I gather from several posts in this thread that, for some men, that's true enough. I am certain, though, that it is not true of all men.

Why would you have sexual interest for a porn star (or a lesbian ) if it is very unlikely she will want to have sex with you?

If it is evident to me that someone is not at all interested in having sex with me, then that has an extremely strong tendency to very quickly and very effectively shut down any sexual desire I have for them. I can't think of many times that it's been otherwise -- and the few times when I recall it might have been otherwise all took place when I was younger.

Do keep in mind that many men do not think of lesbians as an impossibility. Lesbians are often seen with a possibilty to become bisexual at some point.

So I gather from several of the responses to this thread. Do you think such men are being realistic?

Would you still have sexual interest for an heterosexual girl even if she said she doesn't want to have sex with you? Surely.

Surely not. Not so long as she lacks interest. And if her lack of interest is for any reason especially blatant or decisive, then I'm likely to thoroughly dismiss her as a potential sex partner.

Near as I can relate to what you're saying is to recall how it was like when I was 16, 18, 21, or even as late as my mid twenties. Back then, I was often horny enough to have sex with anyone who let me -- regardless of how unenthusiastic they were. I think that level of horniness is pretty much natural early in life.

I imagine, if someone had asked me the OP question back then, I would have answered it much more like you have. So, I think I see where you could be coming from.

But I suspect you can only have sex with an indifferent partner a few times at most before you develop a gut-level rejection of having sex with an indifferent partner. At least, something like that has been my experience. Maybe some others have a greater tolerance for indifference, apathy, lack of interest. From what's been said in this thread, it would no longer surprise me if that was the case.

 

[Sunstone]

I am not at all interested in sex with a lesbian. Now a couple of female bisexuals on the other hand....

I agree. And I agree that bi-sexuals are a very different matter. But what puzzles me is why you want to stop at just a couple? Is your restraint because you're married?

 

[GabrielWithoutWings]

I agree. And I agree that bi-sexuals are a very different matter. But what puzzles me is why you want to stop at just a couple? Is your restraint because you're married?

Same reason you don't keep the gas pedal pegged for the entirety of your commute. You'll either crash or blow your pistons out.

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