Why are Some Men Sexually Interested in Lesbians?

[Koldo]

T'aint necessarily so. You can't really just walk up to a guy who's been showing interest and say "how about it?". It ruins the chase or something and they tend to run off gibbering really implausible excuses. I've tried.

You can flutter your eyelashes and follow someone around all day but it's still generally his call whether you get any sex for your trouble.

Have you really tried?

I guess your success rate will be much higher than a man.
In fact, i would even bet some money into it.

Unless you are ugly.....

 

[Alceste]

Have you really tried?

I guess your success rate will be much higher than a man.
In fact, i would even bet some money into it.

Unless you are ugly.....

Well, if my lack of success with the direct approach is due to being ugly and straight men are experiencing the same rate of rejection it follows that straight men are generally ugly.

 

[Koldo]

It is a fact that men (of all kinds) are generally ugly.

Anyway, if you are a woman with an average appearence you should have a much higher sucess rate than men using the direct approach.
It doesn't mean you will manage to do it every time. Your success rate will simply be much bigger.

If it takes 10 tries for you to get sex with someone, then you can bet it will take at least 20 tries for a man.

 

[Songbird]

Well, if my lack of success with the direct approach is due to being ugly and straight men are experiencing the same rate of rejection it follows that straight men are generally ugly.

Ha! So I'm trying to figure out without actual research n stuff whether your impression or Father Heathen's is more prevalent. And whether people's opinions match their actions. This is where studies are tricky; you can't really get into a person's imagination with methodology. The best we can do is fine tune methodologies, but motives and behaviors are sly beasts. You can take surveys and track statistics and analyze culture, biology, and anthropology. But my rambling point is I agree with you in that I don't think it's as easy for women to bed a man as culture implies. And I don't think men are as willing to randomly bed women as we think.

Stereotypes are too general to describe reality.

Confidence is sexy.

There. I think that's all my points.

Happy Heart Day!

 

[Erebus]

I agree that confidence is of utmost importance to both genders. I would suggest that physical attractiveness is more useful to women than it is to men, while confidence is more useful to men than it is to women. This is just based on my own observations though, I've seen very unattractive guys with lots of confidence do better than attractive guys with low confidence. Conversely I've seen confident but unattractive women do worse than attractive women with low confidence.

 

[Alceste]

Hi, Songbird. I agree. There are actual men and women, then there are popular stereotypes and generalizations (AKA concepts) about men and women. Concept-based thinking confuses and distorts our perception of reality, IMO.

Reason would suggest that single straight men and single straight women have exactly the same amount of consensual sex with other singles. Otherwise who are straight men having sex with? Each other?

The claim that single women have an easier time getting sex is rather extraordinary considering the mathematical reality, so requires extraordinary evidence.

 

[Alceste]

It is a fact that men (of all kinds) are generally ugly.

Anyway, if you are a woman with an average appearence you should have a much higher sucess rate than men using the direct approach.
It doesn't mean you will manage to do it every time. Your success rate will simply be much bigger.

If it takes 10 tries for you to get sex with someone, then you can bet it will take at least 20 tries for a man.

Generally it only takes me one try, if I don't use a direct approach. I just need to hang out with a guy until he tries it on. Sometimes it takes weeks, though, or years. My score with the direct approach is zero for three.

 

[Koldo]

No no. That is not it.

The claim is that it is a lot easier for a woman to convince a man to have sex with her than the other way around.
So it is easier for a woman to have sex because she has to work less for it. Albeit both men and women have sexual relations the same number of times.

EDIT: Three tries is not enough to make a statistically reliable argument.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

No no. That is not it.

The claim is that it is a lot easier for a woman to convince a man to have sex with her than the other way around.
So it is easier for a woman to have sex because she has to work less for it. Albeit both men and women have sexual relations the same number of times.

EDIT: Three tries is not enough to make a statistically reliable argument.

It's not as hard to get a girl to sleep with you as most guys think. The problem is they want to sleep with the wrong girls. Guys just have to learn to discern which chicks are emotionally damaged enough that they overcompensate sexually. These are generally the ones who are good in bed anyway.

 

[Songbird]

It's not as hard to get a girl to sleep with you as most guys think. The problem is they want to sleep with the wrong girls. Guys just have to learn to discern which chicks are emotionally damaged enough that they overcompensate sexually. These are generally the ones who are good in bed anyway.

Snort.

I feel like you're staring at me. Or at the upper right side of my hair.

 

[MysticSang'ha]

It's not as hard to get a girl to sleep with you as most guys think. The problem is they want to sleep with the wrong girls. Guys just have to learn to discern which chicks are emotionally damaged enough that they overcompensate sexually. These are generally the ones who are good in bed anyway.

True dat. :beach:

 

[Kilgore Trout]

Snort.

I feel like you're staring at me. Or at the upper right side of my hair.

That's just my lazy eye. I'm actually staring at your chest.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

True dat. :beach:

Speak of the dev....I mean, hey Mystic.

 

[MysticSang'ha]

Speak of the dev....I mean, hey Mystic.

What up, KT?

I see you actually used the dating advice I gave you.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

What up, KT?

I see you actually used the dating advice I gave you.

Yeah, getting that second penis attached has been a godsend.

 

[Songbird]

That's just my lazy eye. I'm actually staring at your chest.

Ah! Carry on.

 

[Genuine Realist]

Why are some men attracted to some lesbians?

Some lesbians are knock-outs. A pity.

 

[Koldo]

Guys just have to learn to discern which chicks are emotionally damaged enough that they overcompensate sexually. These are generally the ones who are good in bed anyway.

Epic. haha.
Keep in mind those very same chicks are more likely to turn your life into hell if something goes wrong. Better be cautious about them. :run:

 

[Alceste]

No no. That is not it.

The claim is that it is a lot easier for a woman to convince a man to have sex with her than the other way around.
So it is easier for a woman to have sex because she has to work less for it. Albeit both men and women have sexual relations the same number of times.

EDIT: Three tries is not enough to make a statistically reliable argument.

So given that single men and women have exactly the same amount of consensual sex with other singles, and that they must necessarily spend about the same amount of time getting to know a new partner before sex, at what point in a new sexual relationship is the woman supposed to be having an easier time having her needs met than a man? Are you one of those people who believe women just don't want sex as much as men do?

 

[Alceste]

No no. That is not it.

The claim is that it is a lot easier for a woman to convince a man to have sex with her than the other way around.
So it is easier for a woman to have sex because she has to work less for it. Albeit both men and women have sexual relations the same number of times.

EDIT: Three tries is not enough to make a statistically reliable argument.

For this to be true, btw, there would have to be a magic moment in a majority of new sexual relationships when sex would occur only if the woman asked for it, and would not occur if the man did the asking. Seem implausible to you? Does to me.