Why is alternative living so controversial?

[CynthiaCypher]

Then you've made up your own personal idea of what identity politics is. Because what you're saying isn't the normal definition of it.

And if you didn't want to discuss it, you shouldn't have started ranting about it.

i said I am willing to discuss, just not in this thread.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

i said I am willing to discuss, just not in this thread.

You shouldn't have brought it up in this thread, then.

 

[CynthiaCypher]

You shouldn't have brought it up in this thread, then.

I didn't. I just addressed it.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

I didn't. I just addressed it.

Twist all you want, Cynthia. You can't just decide that it's not a good place to talk about it when you've been talking about it in several posts before I even replied.

 

[CynthiaCypher]

Twist all you want, Cynthia. You can't just decide that it's not a good place to talk about it when you've been talking about it in several posts before I even replied.

Frank, I was addressing a specific issue brought up by a specific member of our forum regarding that issue. This thread is about another issue. I am totally willing to address identity politics fully in a thread regarding identity politics.

 

[kashmir]

The word is debate, and of course I do.

Well at least you admit it.
But to be honest, as my title says, "open to everything"
I am, but given every thread on this subject, nothing was presented to me that changes my original views on those who have multiple life partners.

The only difference in poly, is more partners and the added risks the one on one face as a married couple are multiplied by the amount of partners involved.
The notion some are presenting that poly is some sort of fail safe is bogus.

Given what everyone says, poly is nothing more than openly allowing ones partner to have extra partners and nothing more.

the part about not using condoms if everyone has tests and they come back negative really puts the icing on the cake to the ignorance of it all.

Science tells us one can have STD's and only be a host and not actually have the signs and can still pass it to others.

more=more risks and its really ignorant to convince oneself that it doesn't apply to poly.

Damn, I keep forgetting, poly=superhero.

 

[Nymphs]

I do not think this is a thread to discuss this in. I do not believe feminism is about identity politics at all, since it is about equality for all. If you want to discuss it then create another thread.

Then make your own.

 

[Nymphs]

Well at least you admit it.
But to be honest, as my title says, "open to everything"
I am, but given every thread on this subject, nothing was presented to me that changes my original views on those who have multiple life partners.

The only difference in poly, is more partners and added risks the one on one face as a married couple.

The notion some are presenting that poly is some sort of fail safe is bogus.

Given what everyone says, poly is nothing more than openly allowing ones partner to have extra partners and nothing more.

the part about not using condoms if everyone has tests and they come back negative really puts the icing on the cake to the ignorance of it all.

Science tells us one can have STD's and only be a host and not actually have the signs and can still pass it to others.

more=more risks and its really ignorant to convince oneself that it doesn't apply to poly.

Damn, I keep forgetting, poly=superhero.

This isn't the poly thread. Please redirect this comment there and it will be addressed. :yes:

 

[CynthiaCypher]

Then make your own.

For the first time we agree. This thread is not about identity politics

 

[kashmir]

This isn't the poly thread. Please redirect this comment there and it will be addressed. :yes:

Polyamory? Child-free? Vegetarian? Atheist?

What is so wrong with doing something that doesn't affect another person?

:sarcastic

 

[Nymphs]

:sarcastic

Your entire post was about polyamory, not alternative living in general. If you want me to address that particular comment, redirect it in the polyamory thread and I will. If not, I'm just going to ignore it. Plain and simple, just telling you what I'm going to do -- you can choose to be reactionary however you would like.

 

[atanu]

Polyamory? Child-free? Vegetarian? Atheist?

What is so wrong with doing something that doesn't affect another person?

I have seen almost no problem at all with Child-free or Vegetarian stances.

But just as some think that being polyamorous is perfectly Ok, some others may think that it is not OK. Why discuss it in thread after thread?

To me and many other Hindus nothing is not OK. Yet, I think, those who think poly amorous relationships etc. are perfectly Ok, should delve deeper to see the exploitations and the compulsions; the deep pains and frustrations; and helplessness of those who have to abide.

 

[Nymphs]

Just as some think that being polyamorous is perfectly Ok, some others do not think that it is OK. Why discuss it in thread after thread?

Because it is new to me (polyamory) and I would like to discuss the subject with people in it's various facets. Polyamory, like other ways of living is not a single-faceted thing. I want to understand, learn from and see what people have to say on the whole subject.

If you don't like it, you don't have to read those threads, but I wasn't aware that making threads on subjects that interest you was against any rules here. :no:

 

[kashmir]

Your entire post was about polyamory, not alternative living in general. If you want me to address that particular comment, redirect it in the polyamory thread and I will. If not, I'm just going to ignore it. Plain and simple, just telling you what I'm going to do -- you can choose to be reactionary however you would like.

Lol, you're too much
This thread is about lifestyles and I am addressing one of them.
You asked why the controversy , and I am telling you the reasons why from my perspective.

I just added what I feel, and it is relevant, you don't have to address it, means nothing other than you cant address it.

This is so humorous, clearly you just want everyone to agree with you and cant handle criticisms and opposing arguments.
You do it in every single thread you have started.

 

[Nymphs]

Polyamory? Child-free? Vegetarian? Atheist?

What is so wrong with doing something that doesn't affect another person?

The above are examples of alternative living, but discussions can be any alternative living, not just those above. This is more a thread of alternative living in general.

:yes:

 

[CynthiaCypher]

Because it is new to me (polyamory) and I would like to discuss the subject with people in it's various facets. Polyamory, like other ways of living is not a single-faceted thing. I want to understand, learn from and see what people have to say on the whole subject.

If you don't like it, you don't have to read those threads, but I wasn't aware that making threads on subjects that interest you was against any rules here. :no:

But you keep asking others why they disapprove of it. Why do you keep doing that? If you are secure in your beliefs, then be secure. Don't ask people who do not approve to approve of you, because they won't.

You are not a 100 dollar bill, not everyone is going to like you or approve of you.

 

[Nymphs]

But you keep asking others why they disapprove of it. Why do you keep doing that? If you are secure in your beliefs, then be secure. Don't ask people who do not approve to approve of you, because they won't.

I'm quite secure, and it isn't a belief yet a way of living. I wasn't aware that curiosity about what people think about something was a crime. I could care less what y'all thought of me, I'm curious what you think about the idea -- no matter how inane your opinion is.

 

[kashmir]

Because it is new to me (polyamory)

Well isn't that something, in all your threads you are coming off like you are completely experienced in polyamory and know so much about it, but you are new to it.

Plus, you agree with everyone who adds positive feed back and argue with those who discuss criticisms and opposing arguments.
Clearly, you only wish to believe what you want to believe true and have no intentions on trying to learn about it from an honest perspective.

ROFL

 

[Nymphs]

Well isn't that something, in all your threads you are coming off like you are completely experienced in polyamory and know so much about it, but you are new to it.

I've never claimed to be an expert. Not once, but I appreciate the vote of confidence.

Plus, you agree with everyone who adds positive feed back

Doesn't everybody? I typically agree with them because their experiences match my own. Also, that isn't true, I've actually had great conversations with people who feel opposite of me. Especially those ones who do not engage personal attacks.

 

[kashmir]

I'm quite secure, and it isn't a belief yet a way of living. I wasn't aware that curiosity about what people think about something was a crime. I could care less what y'all thought of me, I'm curious what you think about the idea -- no matter how inane your opinion is.

People that are secure in their lifestyles do not seek out those who disagree with it, to debate them.

Considering all your threads, you seem to be wanting acceptance from the whole world and you DO care what others think, and when they show they disagree with you, you argue with them.
Clear signs of insecurity.