It is wrong for a woman to believe herself to have more "spiritual understanding" than her husband - just as wrong as it would be for a man to "oppress" or "infantilize" his wife.
It would be wrong if it weren't true. But in those situations where a woman DOES have greater spiritual understanding than her hubby, then it becomes infantilizing to ask her to pretend it is not so and to agree with her husband, who has less wisdom.
Just as much as a woman who is not fulfilling her duties as a mother. It will count against her. And her husband should be helping her fulfill her duties.
Not all women are naturally good mothers. I loved my babies -- best time of my life. But my sister gets stressed out by children. It would have been disastrous for her mental health to have asked her to stay home and care for her son.
Secondly, children benefit from fathers being directly interactive with them. Being male doesn't mean you aren't part of raising the kids. Women may be able to breastfeed (with exceptions) but men spend more time actually playing with their kids. Well, at least the good dads do.
There is nothing wrong with a woman gaining "spiritual understanding" - considering that that is the goal of this whole thing - just as there is nothing wrong with a man gaining a more mothering nature toward his children.
Then only thing I would change about this is the "gaining" part. I think it has more to do with the unique nature and personality of each individual. And I don't think all raising of children can be considered mothering. there is such as thing as fathering.
However - no matter how mothering he becomes - he is not the children's mother - and she will always be the ultimate authority over their children.
He is the father. Fathers raise their kids. At least the good ones do. Children deserve to have both fathers and mothers in their lives. Dad is not just a paycheck. And in a minority homes, it works out better for the father to be the primary caregiver, for various sundry reasons.
All I'm saying is that different people are differently gifts, and gifts are not peculiar to one gender only. A woman can be a CEO or scientist, and a man can be a natural nurturer for the kids. In most homes, both parents work, so both contribute equally to child rearing.
I was reading earlier this week about the history of psychiatry and its impact on women. In the 1800s it was assumed for example that every sane woman would naturally want to be a mother and have the home as her domain. It was just assumed that women were less intelligent, foolish, and in need of an authority figure. It was just assumed that a woman given to arguing with her husband was INSANE. A husband could have his wife committed to an asylum simply for disagreeing with him. Women were imprisoned in these asylums where they were not released unless they showed a change to "behavior more appropriate to women."
What is really, truly barbaric is that if one of these women never reformed, they did a surgical clitorectomy, since in general, women's "insanity" was thought to be due to a malfunction of her sex organs.
We have come a long ways from that. But I can still hear the same old assumptions in what you are claiming. The same old, "this is the way that it is supposed to be, this is what is best considering the nature of women." It makes me want to barf.
Yes - if that person with the associate's degree has been given some kind of authority by a ruling body concerning math related issues.
If the job is in mathematics, the AA degree guy/gal would not be given a position over the Masters degree one.
And even if such a bizarre situation existed, the Masters degree mathematician would NOT go to an AA guy. they would go to another Math scholar. AA degrees don't make you a math scholar.
Once a man and woman marry they enter into a legally binding contract that places him as her head in all matters spiritual.
Many many marriages, most indeed in the west, are not made on this basis. Marriages are looked upon as partnerships. Are you saying these are not marriages?
No one said that President's are better or wiser than anyone else - but they are in charge of certain things - aren't they?
Everyone is free to disagree with the President. He has the authority to carry out his/her duties during his/her term of office, but it ends when he/she leaves. And being in office doesn't mean he is automatically right. Heck I have never totally agreed with any President, and some I have detested more than others.
Yet you think this is your best example of why wives should defer to their husbands? How does it analogize over to something that is far more restrictive.
Neither is lesser. Why do you consider it a competition?
It is not a competition. Both husband and wife bring their own natural talents into the marriage. I'm saying you cna't try to force square pegs into round holes, and there are some women that are NOT inclined to child rearing just as there are some men highly inclined to it. Your policies are based on sweeping generalization that harm those who don't fit the description.
If either the man or the woman has some sort of deficiency - their spouse shouldn't usurp the authority of the other - but help them better fulfill their duties.
Actually, If the wife is uninclined to child rearing, and the husband highly inclined to it, it makes absolutely no sense whatsoever for them to force the stereotypes upon themselves.
And remember that in MOST homes, both husbands and wives work, so if you are saying a wife should come home from work, and start her second shift as a mother, but the husband can come home from work and play X-box, that's just unreasonable.
Does a husband who realizes that his wife does not have the best maternal instincts take her children away from her? Or does he help pick up some of the slack?
If she doesn't have maternal instincts, he would be a fool to leave the kids with her. That's how abuse and neglect happen.
Anyhow, I skipped a lot of what you siad. I'm sorry but your post was just too long, and now I've sent a reply that is, IMHO, so long that I know most of the folks in the forum won't choose to read it. If you reply, please try to make it shorter. It's really only a forum. Things need to be concise.