I'm relaxed... not certain why you'd think otherwise since you don't know me... but rest assured, I'm fine... thanks.
The historical backround makes it clear to me... he was asking 1st century Jews and Pagans to choose faith in him... this decision (as a general rule) would cause strife and anger among family members of the person who chose to follow Christ.... a new Christian then would have to make a choice: follow my conscience and risk losing my family or betray my conscience (and damn my soul) and keep my family.
Tough choice no matter what anyone says.... but it's such an important decision that it would be better to have the ones become "enemies" (their choice to be an enemy-not the Christian, who loves them still) than give up salvation.