Italian fascism was socialism in disguise.Ignoring my point, eh.
Capitalism is still better than the fascism &
withering economics that always accompany
socialism / communism.
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Italian fascism was socialism in disguise.Ignoring my point, eh.
Capitalism is still better than the fascism &
withering economics that always accompany
socialism / communism.
Is it okay to have a kid if you are ill prepared to take care of one? I for one have resolved to never have a kid because I can’t imagine I’ll ever be fit to be a parent. Though selfishly, I’d like a kid for the sense of fulfillment I see often talked about.This is a thread to talk about childlessness...in our generations.
The boomers are invited too... to express their view on us.
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Why do you think you're ill prepared to take care of a child? What do you think you'll mess up on?Is it okay to have a kid if you are ill prepared to take care of one? I for one have resolved to never have a kid because I can’t imagine I’ll ever be fit to be a parent. Though selfishly, I’d like a kid for the sense of fulfillment I see often talked about.
Well, I was raised horribly and my doc says that had long lasting effects. Not trying to do that. I can’t take care of myself physically even and barely mentally. How can I provide a kid with what they need when I can’t provide myself the basics and personally need support? One of the reasons my (then) wife got rid of our pregnancy was because she recognized this when I didn't, but I understand it now.Why do you think you're ill prepared to take care of a child? What do you think you'll mess up on?
Well, lots of people need support. That's common. But are you able to basically function? Like practice hygiene, shower, dress yourself, prepare food and eat? I mean, if you're not able to do those things, you are really disabled. But even then it's not hopeless, if you are able to get the help you need such as a PCA at home, at least for a time. Whatever the problem is, the key is to work towards a place of stability. There are people who can help you learn life skills so you can take care of yourself. A lot of people don't learn these things because of bad circumstances they were dealt young in life. Don't fret. So just because you are really struggling right now and may not be fit for parenthood at the moment, that doesn't mean that will always be so.Well, I was raised horribly and my doc says that had long lasting effects. Not trying to do that. I can’t take care of myself physically even and barely mentally. How can I provide a kid with what I need when I can’t provide myself the basics and personally need support? One of the reasons my (then) wife got rid of our pregnancy was because she recognized this when I didn't, but I understand it now.
Yessir I am.you are really disabled
I understand. Well, you recognize it. What are steps you can take to improve your situation? You don't have to tell us, it's just for you to think about. Maybe write (or type) some ideas for yourself. Just whatever you can think of to make things better. Maybe think about services in your area that can help, or benefits you may qualify for. I hope you have someone like a caseworker because you really need one, it sounds like.Yessir I am.
Yee I got a whole medical team that have me under a magnifying glass. I don’t want to worry people, I just conversate and I’m real real when I talkI hope you have someone like a caseworker because you really need one, it sounds like.
That's good, but are do you feel you're getting the help you need?Yee I got a whole medical team that have me under a magnifying glass. I don’t want to worry people, I just conversate and I’m real real when I talk
Yea it just a process. Takes time to stabilize in treatment and I gotta be a good patient and stick around for the treatment to work. Fingers crossed I stick around this timeThat's good, but are do you feel you're getting the help you need?
Well, I'm rooting for you. Keep up the good work.Yea it just a process. Takes time to stabilize in treatment and I gotta be a good patient and stick around for the treatment to work. Fingers crossed I stick around this time
Yeah I mean, I think it can be done, but I'd have a range of concerns about how the kid would develop in such a situation. What kind of peers would he have, and how would he feel once he became self-aware of the situation. This a culture of comparison, as far as I can tell. Other factors can be co-present in situations where finances are at a minimum, like neglect and abuse. And I'm not saying you would do that, or it has to be that way. It seems like the person raising a kid on welfare would have to be really aware of what can go wrong, and so they'd need a lot of self-belief in themselves, as well as being able to instill a lot of that into the kidI don't understand the reasons people give to not have kids due to finances. You'll get welfare if you're poor and have kids, so that's not a good excuse, imo. I think it's more the professional lifestyles that have been pushed for millennials and younger people that make it hard for them to have time for a relationship, let alone raising a family. They're either poor on one hand or college educated and obsessed with their careers to the detriment of anything else.
What you wrote is a little counter-intuitive to me, as I thought that the sort of party lifestyle was sometimes more likely to lead to a lack of impulse control. So I'm not entirely sure where you're coming from with thatIn my experience, this is not the case at all.
When I look in my social circle to others of my age who don't want children, the actual reason is never about work or time or money.
It's pretty much just one reason: I don't want that responsibility and I want to be free to go party and drink and what-not whenever I want instead of having to change diapers, feed kids and worry about getting them to do their school work.
I don't read that post as describing a "party lifestyle".What you wrote is a little counter-intuitive to me, as I thought that the sort of party lifestyle was sometimes more likely to lead to a lack of impulse control. So I'm not entirely sure where you're coming from with that
Are you serious?Tell me the difference.
You must be a wealthy person.
Wealthy people procreate because they can give their kids a nice future.
Maybe this tells us something about your social circle, about the types of people you surround yourself with.Honestly I have seen much more parental regret than childless regret around.
I think religion also plays a significant role.
Is it okay to have a kid if you are ill prepared to take care of one? I for one have resolved to never have a kid because I can’t imagine I’ll ever be fit to be a parent.
It's one of those typical things where you don't know what you are missing, so you don't miss it.Though selfishly, I’d like a kid for the sense of fulfillment I see often talked about.
Not sure what is tripping you up....What you wrote is a little counter-intuitive to me, as I thought that the sort of party lifestyle was sometimes more likely to lead to a lack of impulse control. So I'm not entirely sure where you're coming from with that
Belgium....Flanders. I have got it.Absolutely not. Average middle class at best.
In Flanders?Most people I know have kids. None of them are rich.
Thanks to the eurocracy that was created in Brussels ....not so many Italians are rich enough to afford a kid.Maybe this tells us something about your social circle, about the types of people you surround yourself with.