I've seen people say "If you don't take the vaccine its because you are selfish and not thinking of others" When asked if they took the vaccine for others or theirself, they say for myself. Isnt that the definition of selfish?
Selfish isn't thinking about oneself. We expect others to do that. Selfish comes up when there are competing values between one's preferences and what is good for others, situations where kind and empathetic people sometimes consider the needs of the other and share resources or provide other assistance to them, but other kinds of people just don't think about them or consider their needs. Maybe your stereo is too loud and a college roommate asks you to turn it down to study, but you never consider their needs and leave the stereo up.
The willfully unvaccinated are making their choice without any interest in community, which is why I consider them selfish, like litterers and people that take two parking spaces. I've pointed that out on this thread twice now - none of the unvaccinated have ever expressed a scintilla of interest in those around them. It never comes up in their posting. At a minimum, one could say that they are sorry to be seen as a menace or for any part they played in spreading this pandemic, but it simply never comes up in their responses. They only seem to be interested in not being blamed or criticized. There has been no acknowledgement of any responsibility owed to others even to their own family members and neighbors. Those people just aren't in their thoughts.
I'm not asking them to do this either. I'm not asking them to feign concern they don't have, although it might be in their selfish best interest. I'm simply pointing out that what this pandemic and this discussion over the months has shown me is that these are different kinds of people, and not different in a trivial way or variety is the spice of life way. Different in a don't get too close or expect too much kind of way.
How on earth did you come up with that assumption [although you know you are Wrong, you do not like to be told so.]?
1. I understand how certain behaviors spread the pandemic
2. I don't believe it is right to mandate vaccines and telling people they contribute to the pandemic
I see how he came to his conclusion. It seems you can't. You have sheltered yourself from blame or responsibility. You just wrote that you understand how the pandemic is spread, but you don't want to be forced to take a vaccine, which is essentially telling you that you are wrong to refuse one and shouldn't have that choice.
I support vaccine mandates, because I can see that it is pointless to appeal to either science or civil duty with large numbers of people, I know that they will continue to make selfish decisions, and I want it stopped by any means necessary including vaccine mandates for those for whom they are not medically contraindicated. I've heard the arguments and rejected them. I no longer care if one is comfortable taking a vaccine, or wants full FDA approval, or is waiting to see how things go out there, or calls the vaccines experimental. I have good reasons to reject all of those ideas, and am really not interested in trying to appeal to their sense of reason or decency.
It would be like pleading with a bank robber to please stop robbing banks by appealing to their sense of decency and community. No "how would you like it" argument can have any impact on somebody like this, because he doesn't care who he hurts. That's what sociopathic means. You lock him up, a sort of "no bank robbing" mandate if you will.
It makes me wonder if everyone got vaccinated other than the exempt, would we eventually reach herd immunity?
No, that genie is out of the bottle until and unless new vaccines appear that can not only prevent severe disease and death, but also sharply reduce simple person to person transfer, and that vaccine can be administered to most of the world before a virus that can break through that level of immunity arises. We could have the whole world vaccinated now, and we would still expect the virus to continue taking up residence in the human race to spread itself indefinitely until it devises a mutation that begins killing again.
I don't blame the antivaxxers for this. This was going to happen simply because the world couldn't get vaccines to those willing to take them fast enough. Even if people hadn't refused vaccines, this still would have happened - we'd still have the delta variant percolating indefinitely through the human race, it's principal reservoir and vector.
I still consider them selfish, and all things being equal, not the best choice of person to trust or put yourself in a position to have to depend on. I still resent how little they cared about others. It's a character issue. I think it was you that framed this as a cultural choice between individualism and collectivism. I disagree. We do both. That's reflected in the dual role every citizen in a free, capitalist society has - to pursue happiness for himself and to facilitate others doing the same by cheerfully obeying the law and paying taxes. I don't accept calling what I call selfishness individualism. It's that, but more, and worse.