Flankerl
Well-Known Member
I think this is an unwarranted assumption. Not all transgendered people misunderstand what you're describing. I don't even know exactly what percentage of them do so either.
I'm also not sure why you're putting "cisgendered" and "cis" in quotation marks.
Oh yes I think there are some of them out there, but I have never read it by one of them. So either I read the wrong sites or they are just all offline.
But yeah they are probably out there.
And I put it in quotation marks because it pretty much makes the entire idea of "hey we are just like you guys" absurd.
Just some years ago the whole term did effectively not exist. People were just people.
Ever since then it also has become quite the slur.
Or, on the other hand, what is wrong with transsexuals expecting to live as close to a normal life as possible?
One can of course keep it a secret and wait for the fallout once in bed.
Though that is quite the stupid idea.
And also whether you like it or not, most people expect normal people when they go out and search men or women. They expect them to have the specific chromosomes.
That's just what it is. It has been like that for.... ever. It was like that 10.000 years ago and it was like that 100.000 years ago.
I know really bigoted that people search what they want. But that's just how people are.
For many people Transsexuals are basically frauds, they look like X or Y but aren't really. Is that nice? No, people are generally not nice, especially when it comes to searching their mates.
We fought wars over screwing other people, nice is not even on the horizon.
Being expected to disclose your medical information and history is not a part of a normal life.
Uhm yeah it kinda is. Its why we invented condoms for the first sexual encounters so we won't catch this or that from that other person.
The general rule is that we have to take into account that the person on the other side has been around and that it might be a giid idea to be on the safe side.
Even many couples do tests before they scrap the condom in favour of other methods. Because you know, that's just how it is.
In that case I can understand it, because a pre-op transsexual may not even have what the person is sexually interested in.
And, as I said, I'm more concerned with the post-op acceptance (more like rejection), as that is when people really have to grasp at straws and no matter what excuse they try to give there is something to counter it.
No they don't. I know how fascinating medical science concerning the whole building a Vagina/Penis stuff has become and that those Thais really are doing some surgical magic but it will never be a real Vagina/Penis as it is re-modelled tissue.
Why is it grasping at straws? Perhaps some(read: most) people just want a natural Penis or Vagina? Is that actually hard to understand?
Stating a medical fact is not bigotry.
That fact that you mention backlash indicates the problem is not within transsexuals, but those give this "backlash" over something that really isn't a serious issue.
For you.
It might be a good idea to kinda think about how others feel about a subject. Like basically what you apparently expect others to do, just the other way around.
This does in no way imply that you should change your opinion mind you. It's about something else, its basically the magic key to interact with other human lifeforms.