• Welcome to Religious Forums, a friendly forum to discuss all religions in a friendly surrounding.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:
    • Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
    • Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
    • Access to private conversations with other members.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon!

Does Atheism Lead to Immoral Behavior?

Revoltingest

Pragmatic Libertarian
Premium Member
I have been approached by the mods.
I understand that to talk about such subjects does not promote respect
between members.

I respect their judgment.
HOW something is discussed is the issue.
Not so much WHAT is discussed.

The 1st trick....
Figure out how to express one's views within the rules.
- Keep it about the issues, not the other poster.
- Avoid advocating anything illegal within the RF jurisdiction.
The 2nd.....
- Prepare to endure the onslaught of objection.
- Handle it with aplomb & equanimity.

I'm not saying you don't already observe the above.
But I think you can post more candidly. BTW, I know
what it is to endure the loathing of RF's posters.
And yet, they still let me post here (albeit grudgingly).
 

It Aint Necessarily So

Veteran Member
Premium Member
It seems to me that it is all about authority. Women despising men, and refusing to obey them
Women have no need to obey men, including the men that they love, and men have no authority over women that women don't give them. Your holy books and clergy say otherwise, but they're for you and anybody else willing to submit to them. The whole concept is primitive. You might as well be wearing animal skins and clubbing your wives.

I've watched a few reruns of The Honeymooner's lately. Ralph gives Alice orders, and she scoffs at him. She's a modern woman and he's with you, that her proper place is to obey him, which is what makes it funny.
I think that the concept of "respect" is lost on some people.. They seem to think that they only have to respect people "if they've earnt it".
We use the word to mean more than one thing. There is respect that one earns by being human, which is automatic but can be lost, such as respecting a person enough to be polite to them. This is different from respect earned by meeting some standard, which must be earned. So, one of these is earned, the other a default position.
rebellion against God and husband, cannot bring success and contentment.
I can falsify that with a counterexample. What you call rebellion has brought me and my wife contentment. We don't give orders to one another, and we have no god or religion. We're atheistic humanists.
You wouldn't need forum rules, if you had respect for God.
You have respect for the god you believe exists (why not G-d this time?) Didn't you say that the mods have corrected you a few times?
If you think that I said such a thing, you have completely misunderstood me.
That was in response to, "He further proclaimed that wives not complying with spousal rape was an example of this "immorality," which was directed at a poster new to the thread. You don't call what you describe rape, but others do including the law where you live, and that is likely why he chose that word.
I assume that people bashing me on that topic are purposely misconstruing what I am saying
People understand you clearly, and nobody is misrepresenting you except you.
I think that we would probably find Muhammad a less chauvinistic or misogynistic man than would be assumed by a reading hereof.
Probably, if we only went by his spoken words, which I presume would be much different face-to-face than what we read here, but maybe he'd be as frank then as here. My judgment of him like everybody else commenting is based in his expressed opinions, without which I'd have no reason to judge him negatively.
I highly doubt that Muhammad believes that husbands should be able to rape their wives without consequence.
He does, only he doesn't call nonconsensual sex rape unless there bruising or bleeding. His values maybe reprehensible, and his use of language private, but I believe that he has been sincere in the expression of those values. As Maya Angelou famously said, “When people show you who they are, believe them the first time.” I think she meant believe them when they show you themselves unflatteringly.
I assume that he is part of a Muslim community. You know as well as I do the doctrinal position taken within Islam on this. For him to express whatever inner misgivings he might harbor would be tantamount to causing an initial psychological separation between himself and the Ummah. Most Muslims keep any misgivings that they have to themselves.
So you think his religion teaches him things about which he may have misgivings, but pressures him to remain silent? That's credible with any Abrahamic theist, but he doesn't conceal his misgivings, which aren't about Islam, but about secular society and atheism. It's not hard to tell what does and what does not bother him, and I don't think he is trying to conceal it. He just wants it accepted on RF.
 

It Aint Necessarily So

Veteran Member
Premium Member
if they say the scriptures always meant X, and they say they now believe X, is that not adjusting their understanding?
Yes, it is.
Hate speech to some people, is telling them their view is wrong, or they need to adjust their thinking and attitude, etc. What's hate speech to you, is not hate speech at all.
Why would such thoughts be of interest or importance?
If someone likes to... say... fondle little girl's privates, saying of that person, they are sick in their mind, and needs help, is not hate speech.
Agreed. Why did you want to tell me that? I'm calling the parts of scripture I cited hate speech. You haven't tried to rebut that. If you disagree, and it seems you do, please provide your reasons. Why in your opinion are those words not bigotry encouraging the demonization and marginalization of atheists?
I don't think you should use individuals to speak in general term.
Why do think I did? Morton described his experience with confirmation bias. If you think he's wrong, rebut him. Explain how and why what he said is not correct in your opinion
Why are some fooled but others are not?
Only critical thinkers can defend one from indoctrination.
Could it be, it's not really a matter of how smart the demon is, but rather, how blinded the victim is, by his desire to believe the lie?
The demon is a literary device, not an actual demon
How do you know that they taught you right and wrong... or do you mean they concept and view of right and wrong?
That was in response to "My parents and teachers taught me right and wrong, as did friends later, but in the end, my system of values was built alone from the ground up beginning with the irresistible moral intuitions of my conscience. That process began in my mid-thirties, not long after leaving Christianity."

Yes, I meant that they all taught me right and wrong as they understood it.
Atheists do not know that they are unrighteous, greedy
Atheists are uninterested such judgments. We know where they come from - why many Abrahamics believe them. Their Bibles contain atheophobic scripture as we discussed, and many greedily and unrighteously imbibe it uncritically, but then I suppose you aren't interested in my judgment on the matter, either.
Since they go by what feels right to them, to them there is no right or wrong, except what is decided by them Hence, it cannot be said that the atheist loves righteousness.
Not as you define the word - adherence to Christian commandments. Yes, we decide what feels right ourselves and call adherence to that that righteous behavior. For me, that's utilitarian ethics.
why did you get married?
I met a woman, fell in love, decided to live my life with her, and asked her to move in with me. She wanted the benefits of marriage, and I was happy to marry her.
Do you think marriage is good - the right thing to do?
It's optional. I don't consider cohabitating outside of marriage immoral.
Who taught your parents? Do you know the origin of their values?
I would assume their parents, teachers, and friends as was the case with me. But I can't be more specific than that.
What about your dad... could his attitude have been different, if he had that education or influence?
Yes, of course. He was a conservative American high school graduate and blue-collar worker, and were he alive today, would probably be MAGA. He and I didn't share many values.
 

muhammad_isa

Veteran Member
You don't call what you describe rape, but others do including the law where you live..
The Law exists for a reason.
There have to be laws .. and it is not all about "what I describe" ..
..it's all about what others have against compulsory marriage for sexual cohabitation.

They therefore want to attack the institution of marriage, by claiming its useless
in the protection of women.
 

dybmh

דניאל יוסף בן מאיר הירש
Anyways, as an atheist, I would love to learn more about how people might suppose a connection between atheism and immorality. Can we somehow solicit more posts regarding this topic?

Sure. In case you didn't go through the 100+ pages, I think the concensus, or at least the last unrebutted argument was atheism on its own doesn't lead to anything regarding morality. And this was the same conclusion reached on the partner thread asking a parallel question, "does theism lead to immoral behavior".

My personal opinion is that theism can be a better system if the deity is involved and cares about each individual's actions, and that this deity is just and moral itself, and if those morals are adaptive. Those are a lot of ifs, and there's plenty of reasons to question whether any of the law-giver-judge god concepts in major religions meet those standards. But, if those conditions are saticfied, having an invisible guardian watching everything a person does is a much better moral system than denying/ignoring that it exists.

Without this ever-watchful-eye, really, any moral decision can be reduced to "will I get caught?" Even if a person, the atheist, develops a strong, do no harm, empathy based code of conduct, all of that can be thrown out of the window in the heat of the moment if they feel no one is watching. And of course this depends on the atheist's priorities and definition of self-harm. Is it harmful to diminish my own pleasure? Why should I harm myself this way? I want it, I should take it, otherwise I'm harming myself? If I don't take it someone else will? The other person is going to be harmed anyway? So really, all I should care about is my own pleasure. Based on this evaluation and pure logic, I am harming myself if I don't steal it and if **I don't get caught**. And all of this ignores whether or not the person actually has any empathy at all. If they don't have empathy, then the atheist's entire moral code is suspect.

From a practical, historical perspective, yes, 100%, theists of the abrahamic persuasion do and have done a lot of damage. I cannot deny it. But that's not theism's fault. That's the code that each of the big three western theisms bring to the table. I'm Jewish, so I'm biased. I think Judaism is the least damaging for a number of reasons primary among them is that it is adaptive. But, we're also the smallest. So, that's a factor that cannot be ignored. Being the smallest naturally prohibits doing a lot damage. If theism brings a moral code of conduct, it is much better across the board, again, with all of those ifs saticfied because the moral code is not compromised based on physical witnesses. Atheism, on the other hand is always at the mercy of "will I get caught".
 
Last edited:

Exaltist Ethan

Bridging the Gap Between Believers and Skeptics
Atheism, on the other hand is always at the mercy of "will I get caught".
I'd argue that people don't do bad things not because they think they will be caught but because they think it is wrong or will create a victim. And likewise, if the victim in question is a deity, and your religion tells you not to do something which there is no victim but God, it prevents people to live normal, happy, productive lives. This concept of atheism allows people to do things based on what the individual thinks is right or wrong, rather than what God says is right or wrong. Getting caught is still the issue though because for many Christians, no matter what they do, they're still going to Heaven simply for "putting faith" in Christ, whereas in the religion of Judaism, you have the day of Yom Kippur to atone for sins. I really don't think there's any line of distinction between the morality of the non-religious compared to the religious, except for maybe that the devout will be overly protective of what is right and what is wrong, typically on matters which produce no victimhood at all.
 

dybmh

דניאל יוסף בן מאיר הירש
Judaism, you have the day of Yom Kippur to atone for sins

It's not absolution. We still get punished for our sins. Transgressions are a much more complicated concept in Judaism. Christianity desired to simplify everything into black and white. Judaism doesn't do that. Everything I do wrong leaves a mark, and all those marks have to be scrubbed off when I die. The more I do, the worse it is. And it's supposed to be awful.

There is a way to get a fresh start, but, it's easier said than done. But it's just a one time event. The consequences of sinning after that is much much worse. And it's exponentially harder to shoot for that get-out-of-jail-free card the next time around. It's virtually impossible the first time, for the second and third and fourth, etc... I can hardly imagine any human being accomplishing it.

it prevents people to live normal, happy, productive lives.

"IT" all depends on the code coming from the law-giver-judge god.

This concept of atheism allows people to do things based on what the individual thinks is right or wrong,

That is a terrible idea. But, most people agree that it's a terrible idea, and that's why secular governments are established.
 

Exaltist Ethan

Bridging the Gap Between Believers and Skeptics
It's not absolution. We still get punished for our sins. Transgressions are a much more complicated concept in Judaism. Christianity desired to simplify everything into black and white. Judaism doesn't do that. Everything I do wrong leaves a mark, and all those marks have to be scrubbed off when I die. The more I do, the worse it is. And it's supposed to be awful.

There is a way to get a fresh start, but, it's easier said than done. But it's just a one time event. The consequences of sinning after that is much much worse. And it's exponentially harder to shoot for that get-out-of-jail-free card the next time around. It's virtually impossible the first time, for the second and third and fourth, etc... I can hardly imagine any human being accomplishing it.
I did not know that Judaism was so unforgiving. Thank you for teaching me more about your religion. :)
"IT" all depends on the code coming from the law-giver-judge god.
I have beef with what I call "ethical immorality". It's the inverse of immorality. Things you aren't supposed to do are immoral. Things you cannot do but should is ethically immoral. I'll give you an example of this. Imagine it's Saturday in New York City. An extremely orthodox and overweight Jew needs to reach one of the top floors of the building. Because it's Saturday and finds it immoral to take the elevator, he walks the stairs. He gets a heart attack upon walking to floor 45 and needs to go to the hospital. If he would have just used the elevator, he wouldn't have gotten the heart attack. The religion prevents him from using technology on the Sabbath and therefore he has a heart attack and (possibly) dies as a result. And I will say, very wholeheartedly, that God cannot be a victim of whatever we do. I believe in God, I'm not an atheist, but as someone who understands God as reality, God cannot be victim. In fact, if anything the victim of people who engage in ethical immorality is themselves.

A more real case of this, that actually happened, were the religious group known as the Shakers. As a group of people who were bound by their ethical immorality, they were not allowed to have sex, and mostly died after a few generations of them passed on.
That is a terrible idea. But, most people agree that it's a terrible idea, and that's why secular governments are established.
"It ain't illegal unless you get caught." Whether you like it or not, each person is guided primarily on individual morality. That's why we still see people jaywalk on streets and typically don't get arrested for doing so. In fact, since each individual person chooses his or her own religion, that person him or herself ultimately makes the choices him or herself what is right or what is wrong. And there is nothing wrong with that. If the state sees that someone is making another person a victim, the state can arrest and put penalties on that person, but that is up and according to each individual case as the government sees fit. Most people break victimless crimes, both from different religious groups, or from secular government, every day, and nobody cares because neither God nor the state can act as a victim. It's the people in religions and governments that matter, not the institutions themselves.
 

Zwing

Active Member
I think Judaism is the least damaging for a number of reasons primary among them is that it is adaptive. But, we're also the smallest. So, that's a factor that cannot be ignored.
Truth be told, Judaism seems to myself the only one of the four (I include Baha’i in this) that possesses an authentic genuineness. Judaism is an authentic expression of an original tribal cosmology; the rest simply exhibit a Jewish cosmology grossly adapted (perhaps even “perverted”) to fit non-Jewish cultural contexts. That’s only my opinion, though. I will have to look through the sister thread to this one…thanks for the “heads up”.
 

dybmh

דניאל יוסף בן מאיר הירש
I did not know that Judaism was so unforgiving. Thank you for teaching me more about your religion. :)

It's both. It's forgiving and unforgiving. It is a true middle path. Not one which scrapes away the extremes, and results in oblivion, a sliver in the middle. It includes the extremes, and the middle, and balances them on a case by case basis.

I have beef with what I call "ethical immorality". It's the inverse of immorality. Things you aren't supposed to do are immoral. Things you cannot do but should is ethically immoral. I'll give you an example of this. Imagine it's Saturday in New York City. An extremely orthodox and overweight Jew needs to reach one of the top floors of the building. Because it's Saturday and finds it immoral to take the elevator, he walks the stairs. He gets a heart attack upon walking to floor 45 and needs to go to the hospital. If he would have just used the elevator, he wouldn't have gotten the heart attack. The religion prevents him from using technology on the Sabbath and therefore he has a heart attack and (possibly) dies as a result. And I will say, very wholeheartedly, that God cannot be a victim of whatever we do. I believe in God, I'm not an atheist, but as someone who understands God as reality, God cannot be victim. In fact, if anything the victim of people who engage in ethical immorality is themselves.

Great example. Judaism asserts that the elevator in that case is required and not optional.


A more real case of this, that actually happened, were the religious group known as the Shakers. As a group of people who were bound by their ethical immorality, they were not allowed to have sex, and mostly died after a few generations of them passed on.

And Jews are required to procreate.

"It ain't illegal unless you get caught." Whether you like it or not, each person is guided primarily on individual morality. That's why we still see people jaywalk on streets and typically don't get arrested for doing so. In fact, since each individual person chooses his or her own religion, that person him or herself ultimately makes the choices him or herself what is right or what is wrong. And there is nothing wrong with that. If the state sees that someone is making another person a victim, the state can arrest and put penalties on that person, but that is up and according to each individual case as the government sees fit. Most people break victimless crimes, both from different religious groups, or from secular government, every day, and nobody cares because neither God nor the state can act as a victim. It's the people in religions and governments that matter, not the institutions themselves.

I'm sorry, I'm not sure how to unpack the argument you're making here in favor of each person choosing their own morality. Yes, a judge, or other official chooses which laws are enforced. But the state certainly can be a victim. Terrorism and Acts of Sedition are two examples.

Now, you bring an important point. Can God be harmed by my transgression? Most people say no. But I don't know. Doing these things does bring harm on oneself in multiple ways, at least that's the idea. For a god fearing group, idolatry could be a form of sedition. Working magic, if it actually ... ummm ... worked, would be pretty scary, kind of like terrorism, if it's BIG magic. So whether these things actually harm God is an unknown for me, but there is a community effect. We can talk about other commandments that you have questions about if you want, and I can do my best to answer those questions.
 

Exaltist Ethan

Bridging the Gap Between Believers and Skeptics
It's both. It's forgiving and unforgiving. It is a true middle path. Not one which scrapes away the extremes, and results in oblivion, a sliver in the middle. It includes the extremes, and the middle, and balances them on a case by case basis.
Hmm. Interesting. It's almost like Jews believe that the afterlife is just an extension of this life, and if you are horrible here, you'll do horrible at that point, but if you're great here, you'll do great in the afterlife. And of course, most people are in the middle. Very interesting.
Great example. Judaism asserts that the elevator in that case is required and not optional.

Didn't know that either. Thank you for this valuable information. While I'm not Jewish this makes me think of Judaism in a better light. :)
And Jews are required to procreate.
And I didn't know this either! My ignorance befuddles me.
I'm sorry, I'm not sure how to unpack the argument you're making here in favor of each person choosing their own morality. Yes, a judge, or other official chooses which laws are enforced. But the state certainly can be a victim. Terrorism and Acts of Sedition are two examples.
Yeah, you're right. The state can be in a victim. I was wrong. And I know that I was wrong because of something I said about Trump in a different thread. I believe that Trump has damaged the reputation of the GOP, and Republicans and the Republican Party make about half of all the US politicians. I retract what I said. And you are also right that terrorism and acts of sedition are two great examples of such. Sometimes I don't even know what I'm saying...
Now, you bring an important point. Can God be harmed by my transgression? Most people say no. But I don't know. Doing these things does bring harm on oneself in multiple ways, at least that's the idea. For a god fearing group, idolatry could be a form of sedition. Working magic, if it actually ... ummm ... worked, would be pretty scary, kind of like terrorism, if it's BIG magic. So whether these things actually harm God is an unknown for me, but there is a community effect. We can talk about other commandments that you have questions about if you want, and I can do my best to answer those questions.
Maybe it doesn't harm God but (in an analogy) if you were wearing a yellow shirt and everybody else was wearing blue, you'd feel out of place. I get that there is a sense of community and belonging when you enter a religious community, and one of my previous therapists once told me that Jews forbid eating pork because in ancient times there was no way to preserve it, and people who ate it would get sick or die. I get the reason why there's a lot of religious commandments. A lot of them do make sense in some regard.

But I will say one thing that I do not like about Judaism in particular is the fact that humans are given, what, 613 commandments in Exodus to obey, but God himself has broken laws, even from the ten commandments, himself? I mean, according to the Bible, God killed people. Jews are not supposed to kill people, obviously. That's both religious AND a secular law. But why does God get a free pass in doing whatever he wants, essentially, but humans are bound to sin every time he or she breaks one of the 613 commandments? And let's be fair, you're right, there are commandments that are positive that require a person to do something, like to get married and procreate. That's not terrible at all, but how do you expect in the society that we live today, that every single Jew is going to marry and have children at one point? And if every Jew is required to marry, why doesn't God Himself have a wife? It must get pretty lonely being God...
 

dybmh

דניאל יוסף בן מאיר הירש
Hmm. Interesting. It's almost like Jews believe that the afterlife is just an extension of this life, and if you are horrible here, you'll do horrible at that point, but if you're great here, you'll do great in the afterlife. And of course, most people are in the middle. Very interesting.

Yeah, that's basically it. Of course, the afterlife is a complicated subject too. And there's a range of beliefs. There's ranges of belief in basically everything in Judaism. The major complaint that's common and true ( besides condoning slavery ) is everything is complicated and there's rarely a simple answer for anything. And that is frustrating. But, it can also be a lot of fun. Since we're a nation, no one gets kicked out for having crazy ideas.

Didn't know that either. Thank you for this valuable information. While I'm not Jewish this makes me think of Judaism in a better light. :)

No problem-o. We have our moments. It's tricky for outsiders because the scripture is very harsh. So, it makes perfect sense for people to view it as... well.... extremely harsh.

And I didn't know this either! My ignorance befuddles me.

Oh well then, this will make your toes curl.


Notice whose responibility is to whom, and what that responsibility is. Kinda the opposite of some of the things said in this thread. And the frequency if so desired... *blush*

It's best summarized with the statement beginning with "R. Yaakov Emden says ... "

Yeah, you're right. The state can be in a victim. I was wrong. And I know that I was wrong because of something I said about Trump in a different thread. I believe that Trump has damaged the reputation of the GOP, and Republicans and the Republican Party make about half of all the US politicians. I retract what I said. And you are also right that terrorism and acts of sedition are two great examples of such. Sometimes I don't even know what I'm saying...

Hee. Me too. I'm overdue for something like that to happen to me. So it'll probably be a doozie.

Maybe it doesn't harm God but (in an analogy) if you were wearing a yellow shirt and everybody else was wearing blue, you'd feel out of place. I get that there is a sense of community and belonging when you enter a religious community, and one of my previous therapists once told me that Jews forbid eating pork because in ancient times there was no way to preserve it, and people who ate it would get sick or die. I get the reason why there's a lot of religious commandments. A lot of them do make sense in some regard.

( Your therapist was wrong about the pork prohibtion. )

But I will say one thing that I do not like about Judaism in particular is the fact that humans are given, what, 613 commandments in Exodus to obey, but God himself has broken laws, even from the ten commandments, himself? I mean, according to the Bible, God killed people. Jews are not supposed to kill people, obviously. That's both religious AND a secular law. But why does God get a free pass in doing whatever he wants, essentially, but humans are bound to sin every time he or she breaks one of the 613 commandments? And let's be fair, you're right, there are commandments that are positive that require a person to do something, like to get married and procreate. That's not terrible at all, but how do you expect in the society that we live today, that every single Jew is going to marry and have children at one point? And if every Jew is required to marry, why doesn't God Himself have a wife? It must get pretty lonely being God...

The commandment is do not murder, not do not kill. So that's a pretty easy one. The 613 were given to just the Jews. The rest of everyone else, basically just needs to be a rational good person. The only rule for non-Jews that is unfair is no gay marriage. Each person is supposed to engage in male-female coupling. But there is no punishment for those who don't. It's a positive command "thou shall ... " not a "thou shall not ... ".

Regarding God not following its own rules, that's a good question. I'm not sure I have a good answer for that. There's a saying, the same mouth that gave a command can make an exception. I don't know if that helps. Also, the laws are intended to fulfill the will / intentions of God. So, if God wills to break a commandment, who am I to deny it?

And no, I don't think God gets lonely. God experiences everything. Certainly everything we do, and more. Which is why I do not rule out that God is effected by my transgressions. At least the same way that a parent is effected when their child is struggling. A person has to be careful with these types of analogies, because God is not human. But, that feeling? I think it's OK consider God experiencing that sort of feeling about its creation.
 

SkepticThinker

Veteran Member
The Law exists for a reason.
There have to be laws .. and it is not all about "what I describe" ..
..it's all about what others have against compulsory marriage for sexual cohabitation.

They therefore want to attack the institution of marriage, by claiming its useless
in the protection of women.
Nobody on this thread has attacked the institution of marriage. Please stop trying to re-frame this to be something it isn't.
 

muhammad_isa

Veteran Member
Nobody on this thread has attacked the institution of marriage. Please stop trying to re-frame this to be something it isn't.
I beg to differ..
The subject of rape was brought up by others in this thread .. not me.
It all started with @Polymath257 saying "Ugh, Sorry, but a grown woman doesn't need to be 'chastised' by her husband, father, or any other family member.

And what about the men getting chastised? can the women chastise the men?
"

..and it later became many members arguing with me about Islamic marriage, and
how Muslim men mistreat their wives, including sexually.

Marriage is an institution that is disappearing in the Western world, and has become optional.
..and the distinguish between Ladies and Gentlemen discouraged.
 

SkepticThinker

Veteran Member
I beg to differ..
The subject of rape was brought up by others in this thread .. not me.
It all started with @Polymath257 saying "Ugh, Sorry, but a grown woman doesn't need to be 'chastised' by her husband, father, or any other family member.

And what about the men getting chastised? can the women chastise the men?
"
Uh yeah, that's not an attack against the institution of marriage.
It's an attack against your views on how marital relationships ought to be.
..and it later became many members arguing with me about Islamic marriage, and
how Muslim men mistreat their wives, including sexually.
Based on the views you've personally expressed here. Again, that's not an attack against the institution of marriage, but rather, against your views on it.
Marriage is an institution that is disappearing in the Western world, and has become optional.
Marriage is till very much around in the West, don't worry.
..and the distinguish between Ladies and Gentlemen discouraged.
That's a good thing. All human beings should be treated equally.
 

Zwing

Active Member
Marriage is an institution that is disappearing in the Western world, and has become optional.
I hope not, but if other western men want to deprive themselves of the best thing that a man can have in this world, namely lineage, then more power to ‘em. I’ll keep my lineage…my gens, thank you very much, as it seems to represent to me the only thing that I can have which endures beyond myself (as a consistent non-supernaturalist, I don’t believe in the human “soul”), and so provides the only possible means to eternity.
 

It Aint Necessarily So

Veteran Member
Premium Member
I beg to differ.. The subject of rape was brought up by others in this thread .. not me.
She wrote, "Nobody on this thread has attacked the institution of marriage. Please stop trying to re-frame this to be something it isn't." She wasn't talking about rape, but you are.
It all started with @Polymath257 saying "Ugh, Sorry, but a grown woman doesn't need to be 'chastised' by her husband, father, or any other family member.
I don't see a reference to rape there (p 33). Rape became a topic about 9 pages later.
later became many members arguing with me about Islamic marriage, and how Muslim men mistreat their wives, including sexually.
Yes. You described rape. You described treating women as chattel. You described marriage as an institution to enforce such things.
Marriage is an institution that is disappearing in the Western world, and has become optional. ..and the distinguish between Ladies and Gentlemen discouraged.
I don't know how prevalent marriage is compared to the past, but I also don't care whether people choose to live alone, shack up, shack up and raise children, or get married first. Nor do I care if the genders evolve from binary to a spectrum. Why? I have no religion to tell me to object, without which, I have no reason to do so.
 
Top