Forgiveness

[Jimmy]

and that is why I cannot forgive, since I believe the person in question should be punished in some way.

Forgiveness has nothing to do with punishment

 

[RestlessSoul]

Why do you think that not forgiving someone always = anger, resentment, bitterness or ill will towards another?

Because experience tells me, these negative feelings are what prevent us forgiving those who have hurt us. The only way to lose the hurt is to forgive the one that hurt us. Forgiveness is the door that leads to freedom.

 

[Jimmy]

Why?

They must do this or that to be forgiven? That’s not how forgiveness works.

 

[Jimmy]

Must be nice to be perfect and not need forgiveness.

 

[Trailblazer]

It does. There is no reason. Search yourself. You’ll see.

The belief that not forgiving someone always = anger, resentment, bitterness or ill will towards another is the fallacy of black and white thinking.

 

[Trailblazer]

Not religion. Real life

It comes from religion. It is not a fact, it is just a belief. We all have beliefs.

 

[Trailblazer]

Forgiveness has nothing to do with punishment

I never said it did.

 

[SalixIncendium]

Is there?

Yes. Thanks for asking.

 

[Jimmy]

The belief that not forgiving someone always = anger, resentment, bitterness or ill will towards another is the fallacy of black and white thinking.

Ok

 

[Jimmy]

It comes from religion. It is not a fact, it is just a belief. We all have beliefs.

Ok

 

[Jimmy]

I never said it did.

Cool

 

[SalixIncendium]

They must do this or that to be forgiven? That’s not how forgiveness works.

That is how forgiveness works for me. Telling me otherwise is nothing short of arrogant.

 

[Jimmy]

Yea. Thanks for asking.

Is there what? Forgot my post

 

[Trailblazer]

Because experience tells me, these negative feelings are what prevent us forgiving those who have hurt us. The only way to lose the hurt is to forgive the one that hurt us. Forgiveness is the door that leads to freedom.

That might have been your experience but it is not everyone's experience.
Have you never heard the saying what's good for the goose is not always good for the gander?

 

[Jimmy]

That is how forgiveness works for me. Telling me otherwise is nothing short of arrogant.

Not arrogant. But hey if you can’t forgive someone who commits a crime because of a mental illness and shows no remorse then that’s ok by me

 

[Trailblazer]

That is how forgiveness works for me. Telling me otherwise is nothing short of arrogant.

*WINNER*

 

[mikkel_the_dane]

That might have been your experience but it is not everyone's experience.
Have you never heard the saying what's good for the goose is not always good for the gander?

The same is so with religion.

 

[Koldo]

You’re ultimately forgiving wether u like it or not though

I don't think so...
Would you intentionally kill someone you have forgiven? I would not.

 

[Koldo]

If I hold anger, resentment, bitterness or ill will towards another in my heart, I allow a corrosive poison to eat at me from the inside. Experience has shown me this.

But this is what I have mentioned before on this very topic: I take forgiveness to mean more than merely letting go of anger. Do you not?

 

[Jimmy]

I don't think so...
Would you intentionally kill someone you have forgiven? I would not.

No but you’re still ultimately forgiving