Unveiled Artist
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Ok let's look at love. I understand love from a Christian perspective but my wife was born in Burma, a Buddhist culture, which was influenced by Buddhism so their expression of love is different from mine, but both cultures have and know love because it's an intrinsic quality built into all human beings.
In the Burmese culture their expression of love is to serve and feed you as they know poverty. Instead of 'how are you? the Burmese greet each other with - 'have you eaten?
At first I thought that because they hadn't been taught the Christian concept of love that they didn't understand it but in practice they express love more with deeds than words.
But they understand love and so do we.
Good example. From my end, this is why I see this different.
A Deaf woman and a Hearing person (say myself) both brought up in American culture. We both have love (and everything else Americans value) but the very fact I am not Deaf and she is not hearing makes us two words apart.
If my culture valued hugging others just as Deaf culture does, we have similar values but the very fact I am not Deaf, makes my experiences, my connection, my "love" with others different (not good or bad or right or wrong) just different than another Deaf person beside her.
I have seen hearing students learning ASL feel (Bahai comparison) because they know sign and know some of Deaf culture, they are connected because they both share the same values. They do not. The very fact they are not Deaf (upper case D) makes them a world a part from hearing culture (which there is such thing).
Differences can define a culture not just used as a comparison. Americans value speech over deeds. Yes, we say "it's what you say not what you do" but you see on t.v. and even talk to others and find that people remember what and how you say things because it affects how they feel and the bias they have. So they may value more the words I love you than your wife would who would show it.
These "loves" are different because the culture that shape them are drastically different. The love or social connection I have with another hearing person or Deaf person is not the same love (regardless if it looks the same) as a Deaf person would have with his peer.
Your wife may have a different connection with other Bermese men and women that she wouldn't have with you on a religious level.
I mean, a hand full of children are born with Deaf parents. They are called CODAs. Children of Deaf Adults. They have the culture, language, and slang of the Deaf community but the very fact they are not Deaf (and you're not Bermese or she not Bahai) defines your love differently. It's beautiful that both your definitions do not conflict like a Muslim and Christian would.
Christianity, another example of love, is through human sacrifice. Buddhism, on the other hand values life. They both have love and both have probably the same benefits and results of love but how do you coincide the former thinking if one dies, one is saved and the other is saying if one lives they can be saved. You can't save someone by dying. Yet, that's what Christians believe.
How can a Christian's love and a Buddhist's love be the same when their foundations are drastically different?
Look at the foundations not the results of them.
If I go to a Catholic Church and take the Eucharist, I can claim up and down I have the same love they have for christ because we share in the sacraments. However, the sacraments are not isolated. They coinside with one's belief. The very fact that my foundations are different, regardless of how much giving or communing I do, the definition I have is completely different than a Catholic, yours, and a Hindu.
Maybe you don't understand it because the results of both a Christian's love and Buddhist's love results in giving?
But I'm looking at the foundations. You can call yourself any religion if you went off of benefits each religion promotes. But you call yourself Bahai.
So odviously, there is some truth that Bahaullah has that Christ does not for you to be Bahai and not fully christian.
These aren't differences. This is your truth and your wife has hers and I have mine. That doesn't make either of us wrong. It just means we have multiple truths.
Nothing wrong with that. Enjoy the diversity. This is who we are.