How do you feel compassionate for a murderer you want to be punished or find justice decided as his consequence?
That's like my saying to a homeless person. "I have compassion for you" and walk by him feeling an "umph" in my heart that I felt something and that is all I need. When compassion is the actual action of doing something for the homeless person. It means nothing without the action.
They are embedded in each other not the result of one another.
1st. You have to understand how action is embedded in compassion.
Once you understand that, then
2nd, you are further towards understanding how physical and spiritual co-exist.
and a bonus if you next understand how Catholics experience compassion via physical objects.
Right now, though, you can't feel compassionate for a murderer if there is no action that expresses your compassion. What you are doing is displaying sympathy not compassion nor is that unconditional love of any form. Many people feel sympathy and try to feel empathy for a murderer if they come out of their shell and see another person's shoes.
Not many people have compassion because they think it's a "feeling" that is somehow greater and they can't reach it.
Catholics go beyond just feeling. The action or charity is without reservation without justice.
Good example. Sex vs. Intimacy within a marriage.
When a couple has sex they are just exchanging their bodies with each other. It's not personal. It's just, well, sex.
Intimacy isn't just staring at each other in bed the day after the wedding. It's not just a feeling. It's an action. That joining between male and male, for example, consummated that marriage beyond just sex. That action is unconditional love, compassion, and inner love for that mate. It binds the two people together.
What you're saying is more of a platonic marriage where both spouses don't need to touch each other to love each other. Basically, both spouses can stand in separate closest in the dark and feel the love.
But what is that love they are feeling?
What is the definition behind that love if it is not consummated as many people feel marriage involves?
Action goes beyond the heart. While Bahaullah may dissect action from compassion, most religions, christianity included, do not. If you don't "get it" you won't understand how physical and spiritual go hand in hand not an expression of the other. One isn't "above" and the other "below."
The issue is, do you want to understand it from another person's perspective or continue to tell us yours?