It is your last statement which comes through in your posts.
The Scriptures are true in their protrayal of GOD. GOD is the epitome of all those character traits.(Love, Gracious, Forgiving, Long-suffereing, JUST, Merciful, etc.) God is LOVE in all sense of the word; and there is one standard for all beings to live by. When one LOVES GOD and one's neighbor in the Relationship of that LOVE, there is total harmony between GOD and ones self; and everyone with all others. GOD is true to HIS Word as well.
As 2Peter 3:9 states, "The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance."
And Num.14:18, "The LORD [is] longsuffering, and of great mercy, forgiving iniquity and transgression, and by no means clearing [the guilty](those who refuse to Repent and submit their will to the Father), visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth [generation]".
Those who were disobedient/unbelieving wandered in the wilderness for forty years and died there ....Not being able to see the Promised land.