Maybe you can "think" that, but the truth is that depression IS caused by regret and self-hatred. And those symptoms are the result of contemplating the imaginary past. You either dwell in your mistakes or long for a different past.
Regret is looking on our past mistakes. I have regrets. I think it would be unhealthy for me to look at my life and say 'well, I had no control over any of that.' Of course I did not have control over everything, but if I did not have control over my choices then how could we hold ourselves responsible for anything? A completely deterministic world can not have ethics.
Depression is an illness, a veil that clouds our thinking. It is in need of healing.
Wouldn't it have been better if Jesus's second coming had already happened? Well, maybe not. Obviously, only God knows when this will be. Is God then interfering on my free will? Does God not know, in the moment, whether or not I will do a good thing? Is God on the edge of his seat with unknowing anticipation?
God, in the moment, lures you to do the good thing. You have free will whether or not to follow that. The 'weight' of our past and our connection to all eternity in the moment (including God's lure) influence our choice, but we make the choice.
Don't you see what this does? It intentionally weakens God. It makes ourselves feel more powerful, more in control. Because, secretly, we hate God's power. We want it for ourselves, and the idea that God knows us not only scares us, it sickens us. Ironically, we want to be known and don't want to be known at the same time.
No, I don't think it weakens God, nor does it make me feel more powerful. I think your example with your wife is a good one. God knows us the way you know your wife, but of course even more so. That idea does scare me (and comformts me greatly as well -- I added this so you might miss it if responding right now), but I believe it anyway.
However, you do not make the choices for your wife, you do not know exactly what she will do next. You can make a good guess. You know that if you want to have a good relationship with her you should treat her in a certain way. If you want her to agree to something you want to do, you can't force her but you can influence her with your love and reason. If she does not do what you want her to do, you can find another way to get it done.
The thing about love is that for it to remain love it gives up all claim to power. That is the kind of omnipotence that God has.
Maybe I misunderstand you, but you seem to say there is no free will.
I know my wife well, and she loves that. She loves it when I can tell when she's upset, even if she doesn't say anything. She delights in how I can anticipate her wants and help her make up her mind. Why is it that we don't allow God to be exactly the same? He created us, for goodness sake. You're trying to rationalize away the idea of omniscience because it makes you uncomfortable, not because it isn't supported by scripture.
Yes, I think this is a good analogy as I said above.
We still have will. We still make decisions, but it is not our direct responsibility to do God's job. We have our own jobs, our own lives, and we choose whether or not to glorify God. Does that somehow change if God knows what choices we will make? God doesn't need us to glorify him, he will be glorified no matter what. So we should stop concerning ourselves with the past and live in the present, focusing on what we, as individuals, should be doing.
I'm not really sure where we are disagreeing from the above, except that I think the future is unwritten so unknowable, and thus God does not need to know the future to be omniscient. He knows me in the present moment as fully as is possible, in the way thay you know your wife but more so. This does not mean you know the future, only that you know your wife.
Yet, if God is an Agent (and I think He is), then He can introduce His own will in a way that is independent of the choices humans make. He can enter our experience as His own Person (Christ), He can send other agents (angels?), He can guide us when we turn to Him in prayer.
