finally i got it Alhamdulilah
i was thinking about five verses
1- "Woe to every sinful liar, Who hears the verses of Allah recited to him, then persists arrogantly as if he had not heard them. So give him tidings of a painful punishment, And when he knows anything of Our verses, he takes them in ridicule. Those will have a humiliating punishment" 45:7-9
2- And of the people is he who buys the amusement of speech to mislead [others] from the way of Allah without knowledge and who takes it in ridicule. Those will have a humiliating punishment, And when our verses are recited to him, he turns away arrogantly as if he had not heard them, as if there was in his ears deafness. So give him tidings of a painful punishment. 31:6-7
3-Whoever is guided is only guided for [the benefit of] his soul. And whoever errs only errs against it. And no bearer of burdens will bear the burden of another. And never would We punish until We sent a messenger.17:15
4-[ Allah will say], "Throw into Hell every obstinate disbeliever" 50:24
5-And they rejected them, while their [inner] selves were convinced thereof, out of injustice and haughtiness. So see how was the end of the corrupters 27:14
if we combine those five verses you will find that who will be eternally in the hell is who meant to disbelieve although that he's convinced. this was my understanding yesterday but so i decided to look for if there a scholar who thinks like that or i misunderstood them
till i watched few minutes ago this video "unfortantly in Arabic" for Shaykh "Mohamed Eloraifii"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zZT-jMzhqOs&feature=related
the caller was asking are the Non Muslims will be the hell or not? the answer was as following :-
he said the disbelievers "Non Muslims" are divided in to 3 divisions :-
1-first division is the one who died without even hearing about the word of Islam like who live in jungles has no TV, internet and never heard the word Islam, or he live as a crazy or not able to talk nor hear. and this is in the other life will be tested as Allah said "And never would We punish until We sent a messenger" so Allah will send them a messenger in the other life to test them.
2-who hears about Islam but in a distorted way like thinking that Islam is to kill others, Islam is the terrorism, and this is like the first division will be tested in the other life.
3-who hears about something called Islam like our hearing about Buddhism or Amazon rivers just a word he heard but nobody come to them and make them understand islam and to discuss the confusions and doubts about Islam and this is the case of a lot of westerns these days and i "the Shaykh" when travel to Germany or Britain i met a lot of them who knows from my shape that i'm a Muslim imam but they hears about it like any other belief but nobody give them proofs and evidences about Islam
and this third division nobody could say they are in the hell till somebody comes to them and let them know what's Islam, and to answer all of their doubts and confusions about Islam like why Islam prohibited adultery? why Islam ordered to cut the hands of the thieve? and these doubts and confusions prevent them from being Muslims so if a Muslims explained that to them and they become know it in the right way and they refused to follow so this will be in the hell, otherwise we can't say they are in the paradise nor in the hell, their fate will be decided by Allah but we still call them non Muslims and not to marry from them nor eat their slaughters but again their fate in the other life is in Allah's hands and nobody could say they are in the hell except if they are really fully convinced
this is what he said and he finished his speech by asking all muslims to learn about Islam to guide such people who know nothing about islam or knows it wrongly
i think his words make sense