Buttercup said:
Is what I quoted above about women and hell a hadith from Mohammed?
Well, if heaven was under the feet of mothers "as prophet Mohammed described it" so why one would think that a man is anyway better than a woman?
That's why one of the most important things are pleasing the mother even much more than the father.
There is things in hadith which so many people ignore or are unaware of it when dealing with the hadiths. Usually the hadith begin with a question from the companions of prophet Mohammed whether they were men or women, then he was answering them. When prophet Mohammed mention somthing so it's because of specific things he saw in women in general, so in order to warn them about it "because it will drive them to hell", he told them that most women in hell are women for certain reasons and the scholars said, as most of hell are women, so also most of people in heaven are women as well because they are more than men on earth "or they will be if they are not" as prophet Mohammed told about what will happen near the end of this earthly life.
For example, there is a hadith for prophet Mohammed describe how easy it's to get to heaven for women much more than men.
He said "in the meaning of the hadith": If a woman prayed her 5 times a day "the usual praying for muslims", fast her month "Ramadan", kept her chastity and obeyed her husband, they will be said to her, enter to heaven from any door you desire.
There is no mentioning in the hadith here for maintaining the family, or any other obligations which only men have to do it and which God will ask him about it in the day of judgment, which means that it's much easier for women to get to heaven than men, but they will remain, most of hell are women and most of heaven are women as well, and if prophet Mohammed meant that most of women will go to hell, so he could simply say "most of women are in hell" but he didn't. I think it's clear right now.
He just wanted to warn them in a smart way as he did with an old woman one time. It is reported that one day an old woman came to prophet Mohammed asking if she will get to heaven, he answered her saying "old people never enter to heaven", now if you took this hadith you will scream saying ohhhh, how cruel? but you have to keep going in order to understand why he said so, the old women cried when prophet Mohammed told her that old people don't enter to heaven then she went, then prophet Mohammed asked his companions to call upon her and when she came he smiled and told her than all of people who will enter to heaven are young and all in the same age. So, there is no old people in heaven and they don't enter it simply because all of them are young whether they died young or old, changing in age is only releated to this life only. Now i guess you got the idea of the hadith and how people ask it and how much accurate we must be when dealing with it, because we all know that arabic is rich language and one might misunderstand it's meanings.
Just observe these verses and you will be able to understand the equality of men and women in front of God.
[124]
If any do deeds of righteousness, - be they male or female - and have faith, they will enter Heaven, and not the least injustice will be done to them. (Quran 4:124)
Do you know what is the name of this chapter of the Quran? It's chapter 4 (the Women). Also, there is another chapter called (Mary) which is chapter 19. It's so plain and simple. It's so clear in the very start of us, human beings, the Quran didn't blame it all to Eve. Allah made it clear that both of them were mistaken, both of them sinned, then both of them repented to God, and finally, Allah forgave both of them.
[120] But Satan whispered evil to him: he said, "O Adam! shall I lead thee to the Tree of Eternity and to a kingdom that never decays?"
[121] In the result, they both ate of the tree, and so their nakedness appeared to them: they began to sew together, for their covering, leaves from the Garden; thus did Adam disobey his Lord, and allow himself to be seduced.
[122] But his Lord chose him (for His Grace): He turned to him, and gave him guidance. (Quran 20:120-122)
One more thing, women at the time of prophet Mohammed were curious as well, and as you are asking dear Buttercup, they have been asking prophet Mohammed, why everything seems to be for men?
He answered them reciting a verse from the Quran.
[35] For Muslim men and women, for believing men and women, for devout men and women, for true men and women, for men and women who are patient and constant, for men and women who humble themselves, for men and women who give in charity, for men and women who fast (and deny themselves), for men and women who guard their chastity, and for men and women who engage much in Allah's praise, for them has Allah prepared forgiveness and great reward. (Quran 33:35)
Note that, if there was no husband for the woman in this life, so Allah will reward her with the best man ever in heaven because it's part of the pleasure in heaven.
[71] To them will be passed round, dishes and goblets of gold: there will be there all that the souls could desire, all that the eyes could delight in: and ye shall abide therein (for aye). (Quran 43:71)
Also read:
[19] "O Adam! dwell thou and thy wife in the Garden, and enjoy (its good things) as ye wish: but approach not this tree, or ye run into harm and transgression."
[20] Then began Satan to whisper suggestions to them, in order to reveal to them their shame that was hidden from them (before): he said: "Your Lord only forbade you this tree, lest ye should become angels or such beings as live forever."
[21] And he swore to them both, that he was their sincere adviser. (Quran 7:19-21)
I hope i answered your question.
Peace and blessing,
TT
