There's a difference?Insubordinate? No such thing. Just speaking our minds.
Now...annoying? Feisty? Stubborn? Independent? I'll gladly accept those labels.
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There's a difference?Insubordinate? No such thing. Just speaking our minds.
Now...annoying? Feisty? Stubborn? Independent? I'll gladly accept those labels.
I don't have a problem being called "insubordinate" in this thread, because apparently,...insubordinate seems to mean all those things. I will not lay down and let myself be ruled over and "punished" for not "falling in line". I will not do so because I am everything you just said. If that makes me "insubordinate" in the eyes of certain select people here...then I claim the label and wear it with pride.
I never claimed we are perfect in the west . Quite frankly I believe all societies has issues with abuse and that all societies should protect the victims. Do note however that the west is a very big place and I dont think generalizing it is very constructive.my point is the beat is not especially for men , also i saw some girls beat each other , and some beat boys ...etc
and we cant not generlize the beat is only for muslims men , because i am sure that western men do the same . (we are not perfect)
Sorry, not sure what you mean. Do you wonder why the relationships you have observed rarely comes to a point at which "beating is needed"?my question is the relation between , never hit the "beat level " rarely ?
as I see the "beat" is very rarely happen between the couples,because it's is something touch the dignity of the woman or the man .
There's a difference?
yeah it's had other meaning (I forget the other meaning ) because it's rarely used ,for my opinion, the required meaning in this case for my opinion is "to beat "
why ?
we will study the verse :
4-34
Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and beat them (or to avoid). Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.
if we suppse that the meaning is leave them (not beat them) it's mean that God repeat the meaning two times , because banish them to beds apart (mean also leave them alone ) .
the order repeated two times !!!!!
avoid them ,then avoid them !!!!
I guess it's not correct if we reach the sense .only if it's mean leave them in the bed , then in the house ( leave them first in the bed , then in alone house ) in the case it's correct .
I verify the expliantion of Quran (Tafsir) sites in arabic and english , most of the explains confirm it's "soft beat".
Altafsir.com - The Tafsirs -
I don't know exactly the solution in this case, but for my opinion .
if the man made wrong (first ) with the wife, she have to talk to him and if he did not back to his mind , she need to call her family to resolve this problem .
if not she need to ask him to divorce her .
btw : if she beat him , and he accept that , i don't mind .
What exactly does that say of the Muslim culture and how should outsiders view this?
you coneserne about victimes !!!!I never claimed we are perfect in the west . Quite frankly I believe all societies has issues with abuse and that all societies should protect the victims. Do note however that the west is a very big place and I dont think generalizing it is very constructive.
I mean it's rarely here , when i heard that some one beat his wife .Sorry, not sure what you mean. Do you wonder why the relationships you have observed rarely comes to a point at which "beating is needed"?
you coneserne about victimes !!!!
ok your societies should protect the victimes , what about the victimes that killed by your armies in Iraq and Afghanistan and Pakistan and Libya by soldiers or plane bombs ?
I mean it's rarely here , when i heard that some one beat his wife .
Not "my" armies. I dont like wars at all. Do not generalize the west and us in it to one entity. But that is a completely different topic.you coneserne about victimes !!!!
ok your societies should protect the victimes , what about the victimes that killed by your armies in Iraq and Afghanistan and Pakistan and Libya by soldiers or plane bombs ?
and the victimes (1500) childern and women , that killed by israelis (which supported by the west) in Gaza and whole Palestine ?
Ok. I do not have any knowledge about where you live, so I will leave it at that.I mean it's rarely here , when i heard that some one beat his wife .
Questions occur to me....
If it's OK for hubby to beat wifey when she has it coming, is it then wrong for her to defend herself?
If he beats her & she doesn't think she has it coming, is it then OK to defend herself?
Is it always wrong for wifey to beat hubby, even if he has it coming?
I see potential for an unstable feedback loop.And would the husband consider her defending herself to be "insubordinate" and thus beat her more? Would this basically continue until she is a good, scared, subordinate doggie?
And would the husband consider her defending herself to be "insubordinate" and thus beat her more? Would this basically continue until she is a good, scared, subordinate doggie?
It's good you're rid of him.There is a definite "how dare you fight back" line of thought with certain men. When my first husband was throwing me around once and he had a hold of my arms near the shoulders I had tried to throw my arms up inbetween us and push outward to break his grip and in the process I had scratched one of his arms with my fingernails. He had gotten so mad that he picked me up entirely and threw me out of the house and ...get this...called the police ON ME for domestic abuse. He showed them the scratches on his arm and made up some story about me losing my temper and attacking him. I was arrested and sitting in a holding cell before anyone would even bother to look at all the marks on me even though I kept trying to tell the cops what really happened. I sat in jail for 3 days, with no charges on me, and when I was released I returned home to find my husband, his mother, and a friend of his clearing out my daughter's belongings from my home and my daughter nowhere around. He had taken her out of the house and had her hidden. This time I called the cops in. Some men just simply don't care for being stood up to.
what i can replay ? how you could think in this exemple ?What about if my wife's job is to be a prostitute though? If I send her out to have sex with other men for money, is it also okay for me to beat her for being insubordinate?
There is a definite "how dare you fight back" line of thought with certain men. When my first husband was throwing me around once and he had a hold of my arms near the shoulders I had tried to throw my arms up inbetween us and push outward to break his grip and in the process I had scratched one of his arms with my fingernails. He had gotten so mad that he picked me up entirely and threw me out of the house and ...get this...called the police ON ME for domestic abuse. He showed them the scratches on his arm and made up some story about me losing my temper and attacking him. I was arrested and sitting in a holding cell before anyone would even bother to look at all the marks on me even though I kept trying to tell the cops what really happened. I sat in jail for 3 days, with no charges on me, and when I was released I returned home to find my husband, his mother, and a friend of his clearing out my daughter's belongings from my home and my daughter nowhere around. He had taken her out of the house and had her hidden. This time I called the cops in. Some men just simply don't care for being stood up to.
There is a definite "how dare you fight back" line of thought with certain men. When my first husband was throwing me around once and he had a hold of my arms near the shoulders I had tried to throw my arms up inbetween us and push outward to break his grip and in the process I had scratched one of his arms with my fingernails. He had gotten so mad that he picked me up entirely and threw me out of the house and ...get this...called the police ON ME for domestic abuse. He showed them the scratches on his arm and made up some story about me losing my temper and attacking him. I was arrested and sitting in a holding cell before anyone would even bother to look at all the marks on me even though I kept trying to tell the cops what really happened. I sat in jail for 3 days, with no charges on me, and when I was released I returned home to find my husband, his mother, and a friend of his clearing out my daughter's belongings from my home and my daughter nowhere around. He had taken her out of the house and had her hidden. This time I called the cops in. Some men just simply don't care for being stood up to.