gnostic said:
I know that I am bit late in asking, but can we go through a few of your list of misconceptions to clear it up, Judgement Day?
I will try, mate. I should be going to sleep, its 2.23 am here, and I have a final exam tomorrow in the morning, not to mention, I have to work in an hour more. Not to make you feel bad...of course I could answer your question tomorrow. But I feel like answering it right now as far as I can help it.
gnostic said:
Do women really require to cover up? No beach? No bikini or bather?
Do women and girls require chaperon, if they go out?
Must women walked behind their men?
Is this a Islam rules or cultural customs? What do Islam really say about the above questions?
The requirement of wearing hijabs for women whether it is obligatory or not, is still debated among Muslims, but the most of them say that it is obligatory because there is an ayah in Quran that says about it:
"O Prophet, tell your wives and daughters and the believing women to draw their outer garments around them (when they go out or are among men). That is better in order that they may be known (to be Muslims) and not annoyed..." (Qur'an 33:59)
But to your question of women walking behind men, I think its rather headed towards customs. Nothing in Islam says that.
gnostic said:
Does Islam say anything about how many wives a man can have?
And why can't women have more than one husband?
This seemed to be one sided.
Yes there is:
"Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one." Al-Quran (4:3)
So 4 is the limit, but there are certain conditions that you have to be able to fit in first. One of them is to be able to treat your wives equally. Another one is that you cannot have multiple wives if your intention is to fullfil your sex desires. Having multiple wives can only be permitted if your goal is but for the welfare of the widows and the orphans of the wars.
There is a common misconception that Islam started the notion of polygamy, having not knowing that before the Quran was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygamy and many men had many wives, some even hundreds. Islam put an upper limit of four wives.
Why cant a women marry more than one man? This is tied to identifying parentage and lineage, because then, Identifying parentage and lineage would then be insurmountable for the offspring. With more than one husband, if a wife were to become pregnant, she would have exceptional difficulties determining who the actual father was.
gnostic said:
I believed there are extremists in any society, regardless of which religion or race or politics you belonged to.
There are good Muslims and bad Muslims, just as there are good Christians and bad Christians. Good and bad Jews, Hindu, Buddhists, atheists, Arabs, Americans, etc.
The problem with the current image of Islam is because these fanatical terrorists are using Islam as their excuse, to motivate others to join them to attack people. They wave Islam in our face. That's probably why non-Muslims may have wrong view on Islam and Muslims in general.
I totally agree.
Hope I answered your questions. Feel free to ask more.