I always thought that avoiding/overcoming was the best way, too.That’s interesting. I guess I have to learn my flaws more I have always avoided them or tried to overcome them
I guess it depends what you're looking for.
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I always thought that avoiding/overcoming was the best way, too.That’s interesting. I guess I have to learn my flaws more I have always avoided them or tried to overcome them
Not really. I have trouble making friends in general. I have friends from the past but I used to be very reckless and disrespectful. I seem to not be able to create friendship bonds anymore ever since I started trying to be more considerate of others and watching what I say.
Not saying that’s the reason I lost the ability, but it’s the only noticeable change I can think of since now and then.
I guess I can't figure out why I'm always nervous when trying to talk to the group I sit by at work, or the people I work with trying to make friendships. That's my only source of community in real life. I don't even entirely know if it's nervousness, as I don't think I really worry about what people think of me, I am just very bad at explaining things and thinking of the right words. I am also just bad at thinking of things to talk about, and especially at being witty with jokes.Then I think it would be best to start trying to make friendships, especially with women, before trying to start a relationship, because friendships should teach you necessary social skills and will involve less pressure than a relationship could.
One crucial thing to keep in mind is to not go into a friendship expecting it to become a romance. If you treasure friendships for what they are and make it clear to your friends that you appreciate their company and personality without having anything else in mind, you may find yourself developing extremely fulfilling bonds with people and learning a lot of social skills along the way.
What do you find to be the hardest part of making or maintaining a friendship? Is that something you would be willing to work on at this time?
I guess I can't figure out why I'm always nervous when trying to talk to the group I sit by at work, or the people I work with trying to make friendships. That's my only source of community in real life. I don't even entirely know if it's nervousness, as I don't think I really worry about what people think of me, I am just very bad at explaining things and thinking of the right words. I am also just bad at thinking of things to talk about, and especially at being witty with jokes.
Thank you. Yeah, there is quite a difference. I guess I vibe here more, I’m not afraid of appearing too “sophisticated” because I’m around other sophisticated people. Maybe being behind a screen has something to do with it alsoAnd yet you do all these things really well with the written, rather than spoken word.
Maybe sophisticated isn’t the right word. Likely pedantic as I use big words and I’m pretty literal sometimes.And yet you do all these things really well with the written, rather than spoken word.
Maybe sophisticated isn’t the right word. Likely pedantic as I use big words and I’m pretty literal sometimes.
I struggle because sometimes my brain turns super literal... and while I understand what's being said... I burst out giggling because I'll be imagining what the person said, literally.Maybe sophisticated isn’t the right word. Likely pedantic as I use big words and I’m pretty literal sometimes.
I'm not much for poetry, but this one is extremely meaningful for me:I am beginning to think, after stumbling across another lazy day, that I might be over exhausting myself trying to combat my depression by filling my life with activities and hobbies. I need to relax a bit, not completely abolish these hobbies but take it easier.
I don’t know exactly what I want in life. Part of me wanted to be productive, part of me to have accomplished writing, part of me wanted to have some unforeseen endgame of this spiritual journey of finding and becoming myself, part of me thought a relationship may bring happiness.
Maybe happiness isn’t meant to be long lasting. Maybe depression inevitably is a part of my life and will show at times. I don’t know if I really have a goal in life. I might just try to live.
What does that poem mean to you?I'm not much for poetry, but this one is extremely meaningful for me:
We'll be happy. And sad.What does that poem mean to you?
What if one doesn't know who they are?We'll be happy. And sad.
Life isn't a conquest, its a process. And its not all upward. It spikes. Drops.
We do different things.
Who are we, really? You ask my husband, he'll tell you about a different person than my dad will, and both of those stories might be different than what a friend might tell. None of them will be right, but none will be wrong.
In my opinion, we aren't. Its all a construct, and constantly in flux. We get pieces that we feel comfortable identifying ourselves with, but it changes.What if one doesn't know who they are?
Nobody knows who they are, Sum.What if one doesn't know who they are?
In your opinion, to what degree can someone be who they want to be vs who they really are?In my opinion, we aren't. Its all a construct, and constantly in flux. We get pieces that we feel comfortable identifying ourselves with, but it changes.
Well, who are they?In your opinion, to what degree can someone be who they want to be vs who they really are?