I'm also talking to two very mature girls on Hinder. We've only been talking for a day now. I don't have high expectations, these things never work out and they seem a little out of my league, but I'm being myself and playing my cards.
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Which option do you think would make it easier for you to be more comfortable next time?Should I apologize for my shyness or just pretend it didn't happen?
Should I apologize for my shyness or just pretend it didn't happen?
I can't tell right now. I honestly feel very numb and disappointed in myself from this experience right now.Which option do you think would make it easier for you to be more comfortable next time?
I did end up apologizing.Nope. You don't have to apologize for being shy. If anything, THAT would be weird. You are who you are, and as long as you are paying attention to social norms you are fine.
You don't need to pretend it didn't happen either, entirely up to you. If you want to mention it, feel free to do so. If you don't, just let it be.
The whole going out thing didn't go well. I was way too shy and quiet. Nobody had a problem, I think they expect that of me to some degree. It was pretty severe today. Went to walmart and went out to eat. I couldn't open up much at all. These are people I have been comfortable around before. Why does it have to happen like this? Why did I backslide? Why did I shy up? I hate this. I don't know if I'll ever be normal. And then Wednesday I have a fire with a bunch of people, what if it happens then? At my house? At a party I'm hosting? I'd be so embarrassed.
I did end up apologizing.
Thanks. I think you're right. I will keep trying.It is very easy to slide back into our comfort zones. Changing the way we behave takes time and patience. Just keep going and keep trying to find your own way. Been a long ride here too facing my social anxiety.
I don't know, honestly. They didn't seem to mind that I was shy but I hated myself for it so I apologized. I felt like it was better than leaving it unsaid. I also thanked them for showing me the ropes of proper grocery shopping, so it didn't look so pathetic.What for? You are doing absolutely nothing wrong by being/behaving shy. It is okay. You are fighting against your shyness to improve your own life, not anyone else's.
Do you honestly think I can change? I really have my doubts. I've been working on this for so long. Granted I haven't really hung out with people outside of work like this until recently, but I have been trying to fight my anxiety for a year and a half now and it keeps coming back.It is very easy to slide back into our comfort zones. Changing the way we behave takes time and patience. Just keep going and keep trying to find your own way. Been a long ride here too facing my social anxiety.
Do you honestly think I can change? I really have my doubts. I've been working on this for so long. Granted I haven't really hung out with people outside of work like this until recently, but I have been trying to fight my anxiety for a year and a half now and it keeps coming back.
First thing you need to do is to stop beating yourself up about it.I can't tell right now. I honestly feel very numb and disappointed in myself from this experience right now.
I did end up apologizing.
I just realized that's sort of what your signature says. HahaFirst thing you need to do is to stop beating yourself up about it.
Who are you comparing yourself to, Sum?How can anybody like me when I'm like this though? I will try better, I'll keep trying. I'll try not shooting myself in the foot and just enjoy myself. I mean, that's what I did try to do. That's what I always try to do. I guess if I make a mistake then my head starts to tense up and I get anxious. I am so inferior, unintelligent, inexperienced, soft-spoken, not-witty. I really can't believe anyone would truly like me because I have nothing to offer and I'm so weak.
Just about anyone I can think of in person, honestly.Who are you comparing yourself to, Sum?
Well stop doing that.Just about anyone I can think of in person, honestly.
Have you forgotten, @The Sum of Awe , that you are god(like)?I really can't believe anyone would truly like me because I have nothing to offer and I'm so weak.