Frank, this may not be relevant, but have you ever wondered if gays were better off without rights that Heterosexuals and Heterosexual couples have?
Perhaps, any rights, other than discrimination, which is dwindling each and every decade anyway?
On topic: Personally, as a gay man, and as stated before, I WANT A SON SO BAD DUUUUDE. I feel like I have NOTHING to live for. Having a girl is fine by me too, for you feminists who think im discriminating xP. I want the sacrifices parents make, I want the responsibilities, But I also want the experience, the joys, the downs, the sadness, the greatness, and most importantly, someone to love and bring into the world, period. I want to take my son/daughter fishing, take them to disney, take them to lesser world countries to thicken the skin, show them reality, but to also let them dream of fairy tales. I told my BF this, and he looks at me like a chick given hes a Type A masculine poomouth. Yet, a man wanting a child is as normal and righteous as any other 'manly' virtue, so I don't take offense.
Then Reality comes along, and tells me given the current condition of society, our economics, our culture, our community at large, etc, that we are in no place to raise children as of yet. Some couples? Hell yea! Lets hope they are succesfull though, because the last thing the gay community needs atm is more blood spilled. Gay marriage would surely spill more blood too. Need. More. Time. Give it a few decades and gay couples/gay communities might be in a better place to support gay marriage and adoption/children, but as of late, the worlds not ready, were (most) are not ready for such rights. It'll end up more of a loss than a +. Others may disagree, but thats somewhat of my stance.