Real quick - you're right though, the ways/traditions in the ancient world were very different than today, but I do understand that it was more mutually based. Nevertheless, when you look at the quotes from the Hadiths found in my post, the assertion I made is pretty well supported. Ill put the quotes below and respond to the rest of your message later. Thx for the reply sir
Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
I was accompanying the Prophet on a journey and was riding a slow camel that was lagging behind the others
When we approached Medina, I started going (towards my house). The Prophet said, "Where are you going?" I said, "I have married a widow." He said, "
Why have you not married a virgin to fondle with each other?" I said, "My father died and left daughters, so I decided to marry a widow (an experienced woman) (to look after them)." He said, "Well done."
(
Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 3, Book 38,
Number 504)
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:
While we were returning from a Ghazwa (Holy Battle) with the Prophet, I started driving my camel fast, as it was a lazy camel A rider came behind me and pricked my camel with a spear he had with him, and then my camel started running as fast as the best camel you may see. Behold! The rider was the Prophet himself. He said, 'What makes you in such a hurry?" I replied, I am newly married " He said, "Did you marry a virgin or a matron? I replied, "A matron." He said, "
Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you may play with her and she with you?" When we were about to enter (Medina), the Prophet said, "Wait so that you may enter (Medina) at night so that the lady of unkempt hair may comb her hair and the one whose husband has been absent may shave her pubic region. (
Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62,
Number 16)
Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah:
When I got married, Allah's Apostle said to me, "What type of lady have you married?" I replied, "I have married a matron." He said,
"Why, don't you have a liking for the virgins AND FOR FONDLING THEM?" Jabir also said: Allah's Apostle said, "
Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she with you?" (
Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62,
Number 17)
'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) married her when she was seven years old,
and he was taken to his house as a bride when she was nine, and her dolls were with her; and when he (the Holy Prophet) died
she was eighteen years old. (
Sahih Muslim, Book 008,
Number 3311)