I like you. I find you to be basically a kind and well-meaning person. I am happy to be friendly to you, and I would help you any way I could. I respect you, but not your beliefs or your religion. I merely tolerate them (except the homophobia), which many humanists find intolerable.
I also like you and I find you to be basically a kind and well-meaning person. I am happy to be friendly to you, and I would help you any way I could. I respect you and your non-beliefs regarding God and my religion. That is the difference. I can respect you even though I do not believe the same way you do, but you do not respect my beliefs or my religion.
One thing I will not tolerate without speaking up is being called homophobic because
I am not.
homophobia: dislike of or prejudice against gay people.
what is homophobia - Google Search
Homophobia encompasses a range of negative attitudes and feelings toward homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT).
Homophobia - Wikipedia
I know lots of homosexuals in real life and I do not dislike any of them. I like them very much and I do not consider their sexual orientation or what they do in their private lives 'my business' because it isn't. I have no negative attitudes or feelings toward homosexuality or people who are homosexuals. IF I have any negative attitudes towards anyone they are towards self-professed Christians who say they believe in the Bible but then go against it and have sex out of wedlock. I do not have the same attitude towards atheists who have sex out of wedlock since they have no religion that prohibits it.
And I suspect that that is OK with you, and that you feel the same about me and my beliefs - happy to be friendly to me and to feel no need to fight me about my beliefs, but also, that you reject it all for yourself and find little value there. That's tolerance.
No, I do not feel the same way about you or your beliefs. As I said above, I respect you even though I do not believe the same way you do, but
you do not respect my beliefs or my religion. I consider that intolerance since it is an 'unwillingness to accept views, beliefs, or behavior that differ from one's own.'
And look at how many of the theists posting in these threads have a palpable dislike for atheists. "What are you doing on our forum?" "Why do you argue about what you say you don't believe in?" "You're just trying to make yourselves gods and escape accountability for living licentious, hedonistic lives." They come by it honestly. It's in their book as I just demonstrated.
I will grant you that that happens on the forum, but it cuts both ways since atheists also speak negatively about believers.
But nobody should expect the secular community to approve of or respect any of that. Au contraire. They should expect such people to take antitheistic action until the organized, politicized religions are pushed out of government and back into the lives of volunteers only. They should not expect to be considered good neighbors, and if living in a country like the States with church-state separation, they should not be considered patriots.
No, in real life situations, nobody should expect the secular community to approve of or respect any of that. I agree that the organized, politicized religions should be pushed out of government and back into the lives of volunteers only.
As for making nice with these religions, it's ludicrous that any believer would expect to be treated more respectfully than they or their religions treat others.
What you said reminds me of the Golden Rule.
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" is a biblical concept spoken by Jesus in Luke 6:31 and Matthew 7:12; it is commonly referred to as the "Golden Rule." "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.
FYI, that is not a Baha'i belief. Baha'u'llah enjoined us to prefer our brothers to ourselves.
As that applies to me and you, or me and any other atheists or believers, I try to prefer them to myself.
I do not believe in tit for tat. I believe I should treat everyone respectfully, regardless of how they treat me.
As an aside, Bahaullah wrote that courtesy is the prince of virtues.
“O people of God! I admonish you to observe courtesy, for above all else it is the prince of virtues. Well is it with him who is illumined with the light of courtesy and is attired with the vesture of uprightness. Whoso is endued with courtesy hath indeed attained a sublime station. It is hoped that this Wronged One and everyone else may be enabled to acquire it, hold fast unto it, observe it, and fix our gaze upon it. This is a binding command which hath streamed forth from the Pen of the Most Great Name.”
(Baha’u’llah, Tablet of the World, p. 88.)