What If We Admitted to Children That Sex Is Primarily About Pleasure?

[Nymphs]

That doesn't seem true for some here, some seem to view sex as humping anything or be humped by anything that will stay still long enough.

Who exactly are you talking about? :areyoucra

 

[Nymphs]

Lol, frankly I dont care what others view about sex, nor if they wish to raise tiny sex object children.
That is on them, I can only answer for myself.
As I said, the title of the thread speaks for itself

Talking to kids about sex isn't going to make them sex objects, unless you want to make them sex objects. :cover:

 

[Madhuri]

That doesn't seem true for some here, some seem to view sex as humping anything or be humped by anything that will stay still long enough.

I think that you are misunderstanding the perspectives here and perceiving some extreme views that simply don't exist. This is quite an exaggeration.

 

[Nymphs]

I think that you are misunderstanding the perspectives here and perceiving some extreme views that simply don't exist. This is quite an exaggeration.

I agree.

Just because I find sex to be fun, pleasurable and 'naughty' doesn't mean I'm going to **** anything that moves. :no: I choose my sexual partners carefully, and everyone of them (except for one) I've had feelings for.

 

[Riverwolf]

That doesn't seem true for some here, some seem to view sex as humping anything or be humped by anything that will stay still long enough.

Different strokes for different folks.

...so to speak.

Then again, I've never seen anyone on these forums who are that promiscuous.

 

[Riverwolf]

But, nonetheless, the emotional bond is pleasurable, no?

If a word is inadequate, its use is inaccurate.

Blissful, more like.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

What If We Admitted to Children That Sex Is Primarily About Pleasure?

Well, what if we did? Where would be the harm?

Then we'd probably be telling them something most of them figured out for themselves already.

 

[Nymphs]

Then we'd probably be telling them something most of them figured out for themselves already.

True, true. But if you look at this thread, and if you talk to many people who were raised in conservative religious environments, it took us a lot longer to realize that, and it wasn't without shame.

 

[Kilgore Trout]

True, true. But if you look at this thread, and if you talk to many people who were raised in conservative religious environments, it took us a lot longer to realize that, and it wasn't without shame.

No doubt that is also a common occurrence. And no doubt, that in those situations, most of the children probably be far better off being told frank information regarding sex and why people do it, than completely sheltering them from it, or engendering a lifelong neurosis regarding it.

 

[illykitty]

To be honest, pleasure was the one thing I knew about sex. If anything I thought there needed to be more education about respect, consent and healthy relationships. But I'm not from a conservative area, so my experience is very different.

 

[Uberpod]

Children need age appropriate information about sex and an accurate description of the many reasons people engage in it. Knowledge is power.

 

[Nymphs]

Children need age appropriate information about sex and an accurate description of the many reasons people engage in it. Knowledge is power.

:yes:

 

[Sunstone]

Lately, I've been wondering if, as a celibate, I'm neurotic about sex because I always wear a glove on my right hand while in public. It's just that I don't want anyone seeing my hand and getting as turned on by it as I do. The two of us have a pretty close relationship, you know.

 

[kashmir]

Different strokes for different folks.

...so to speak.

Then again, I've never seen anyone on these forums who are that promiscuous.

Is pleasure the primarily reason for sex or is love?

I would teach my kids that Love is why we have sex with our partners.
Pleasure is what you pay a prostitute for.

 

[Nymphs]

Is pleasure the primarily reason for sex or is love?

I would teach my kids that Love is why we have sex with our partners.
Pleasure is what you pay a prostitute for.

Both. I feel you can't have one without the other.

 

[Sha'irullah]

Sex is about pleasure? I am not even sure if I have had sex. For some reason the thought of it seems disturbing because it would be like rape.
What if instead you told children that sex is actually the leading cause of cancer. We could lower the population down and prevent our society from using up resources like crazy. Japanese are doing it wonderfully and are actually shrinking. The Herbivore Men are doing it right

 

[Nymphs]

Sex is about pleasure? I am not even sure if I have had sex. For some reason the thought of it seems disturbing because it would be like rape.

What?

 

[kashmir]

Both. I feel you can't have one without the other.

Well then why does this thread title say otherwise?
Sex almost has to involve pleasure, it is Love that doesn't have to be in the picture.

This is why I have issues with this thread concept.
Love should be the primary reason that we teach our kids, not pleasure, because pleasure comes natural and one can pay a prostitute for that, you cant pay anyone for Love.

I will stress that I am not judging anyone, I am just voicing my perspective.
I personally know many people who have sex with the only reason is for the pleasure.
Both people are completely comfortable with that.

Its just not me.

 

[Nymphs]

Well then why does this thread title say otherwise?

Because I copied and pasted it directly from the article.

Sex almost has to involve pleasure

Not always, but fair enough.

it is Love that doesn't have to be in the picture.

You will find that most people will not have sex without some sort of feelings for the other person involved.

 

[kashmir]

You will find that most people will not have sex without some sort of feelings for the other person involved.

"some sort of feelings"
Doesn't mean Love by a long shot.