What women want in a man

[Revoltingest]

I'm a feminist myself.

I'll add this to my reasons for not being a feminist.

(You know I just had to say this!)

 

[MysticSang'ha]

Really? I'm no where near an expert on trans issues but they seem very far from privileged, especially mtf, I imagine (due to our society). They probably have their more than fair share of troubles in life.

It's a terrible thing to say... Baffles me it comes out from the mouth of people who claim to fight for equality.

It's one of the crappy aspects of RadFems. Intersectionality runs rampant in these circles. And trans women are some of the most underprivileged people in our culture, so this is where feminism needs to grow up.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I suggest you go back and re-read almost every post you have made about transsexual women, contemplate those posts, and then think about why your above statements come across as downright comical.

It's not just transwomen, it's all women in general. Even just thinking he has an idea of what women want, and even assuming that most, not all, women want what he has is an insult to all women.

Really? I'm no where near an expert on trans issues but they seem very far from privileged, especially mtf, I imagine (due to our society). They probably have their more than fair share of troubles in life.

Some of them get pretty crazy. I wouldn't put it past them to consider an androgynous insensitive woman a man.

 

[Sunstone]

Also, notice the variety of answers by men declaring what a woman wants from a man. According to this thread, it's no wonder why women are thought of as mysterious if all y'all keep debating amongst yourselves more often than actually paying attention to the women telling you what they want.

Excellent! Absolutely excellent!

 

[oldbadger]

Around 65 then.

Revolting will mark your answer.

 

[oldbadger]

I'll add this to my reasons for not being a feminist.

Rubbish....... you just don't know how to work all those complicated appliances in kitchen and utility areas, so put on the 'Revolting don't do feminism' thingy.

Lots of English women seem fairly calm about feminist topics, but if they read some posts on this thread I reckon that a rough average response would fall into the 'Wow! Look! A Sexist Pig!' bracket.

I enjoy watching films about dinosaurs, and reading crazy-sexist posts! Most intriguing......

 

[-Peacemaker-]

It's not just transwomen, it's all women in general. Even just thinking he has an idea of what women want, and even assuming that most, not all, women want what he has is an insult to all women.

There are two arenas, seduction and relationships. FWIW, I've always been pretty good at the former. I understand the principles of how "the game" is played. I knew how to pull the strings of women looking for that kind of thing so that I got what I wanted. The second arena is relationships. Some of the same principles apply to getting the first date. After that the laws of attraction take over. We each have a match out there. We have a certain set of characteristics that turn on a particular person. It could be sensitivity, love of music, intelligence, any number of things. Magic happens when two people each find that person with the set of characteristics that get them excited. Regardless of how highly I may think of my skills as a playa I can't bend the laws of attraction so that most women looking for a relationship want what I have.

 

[dust1n]

A man must genuinely love women and treat them with respect as it makes women feel safe.

Who cares what a woman wants in a man, or what anyone wants in anyone? I'm more concerned about what I want within myself. If no woman wants the results, than I guess I'm out of luck.

 

[Deidre]

Who cares what a woman wants in a man, or what anyone wants in anyone? I'm more concerned about what I want within myself. If no woman wants the results, than I guess I'm out of luck.

Well said!

 

[Godobeyer]

For my opinion , the women want man not just male . because every man is male , but not every male is man
1- love ,2- care ,3- faithful.4-money (in most Muslim regions)

 

[Revoltingest]

Who cares what a woman wants in a man, or what anyone wants in anyone? I'm more concerned about what I want within myself. If no woman wants the results, than I guess I'm out of luck.

But if you know what a (archetypical) woman wants, you stand a better chance of getting lucky.
Caution though....there will be variations among them. Your raw animal magnetism will serve you well, but some will want more than just that, eg, cuddling, conversation, respect, cooking.

 

[dust1n]

But if you know what a (archetypical) woman wants, you stand a better chance of getting lucky. Caution though....there will be variations among them. Your raw animal magnetism will serve you well, but some will want more.

I don't really consider time spent with archetypical women as lucky on my part. Satisfying my base level pleasure centers is sort of boring.

 

[Debater Slayer]

For my opinion , the women want man not just male . because every man is male , but not every male is man
1- love ,2- care ,3- faithful.4-money (in most Muslim regions)

I think love, care, and faithfulness are very good ideals to go by. I disagree that males who don't fit into certain boxes aren't men, though. People vary a lot in their values and beliefs across different cultures and sometimes even inside the same cultures, so I believe limiting who is or isn't considered a man by culture-specific values is generally a very narrow outlook on what it entails to be a member of a particular gender.

 

[Revoltingest]

I don't really consider time spent with archetypical women as lucky on my part. Satisfying my base level pleasure centers is sort of boring.

Who says you have to ignore higher level desires? But base level pleasure has its charms too.

 

[Rick O'Shez]

In the meantime, we women could talk about what we want in a man, and see if anybody is paying attention.

Please make a nice list with bullet points because we men are quite thick really.

 

[dust1n]

Who says you have to ignore higher level desires?

No one. But higher level desires and lower level desires often conflict. I'd go with the higher level desires first, since I mostly fabricated them, while that lower level desires just happened to a facet of a meaningless biological existence.

But base level pleasure has its charms too.

Under the right circumstances, sure. Base level pleasure also has its curses too.

 

[Revoltingest]

Under the right circumstances, sure. Base level pleasure also has its curses too.

That's why God gave us antibiotics, beer goggles, & rubbers.

I'd go with the higher level desires first, since I mostly fabricated them, while that lower level desires just happened to a facet of a meaningless biological existence.

As an existentialist & atheist, I place high value on "meaningless biological existence".

 

[dust1n]

That's why God gave us antibiotics, beer goggles, & rubbers.

That's all the stuff people made to make the potentially depressing nature of sex a bit more tolerable.

That being said... I think it's kinda important for kids to address and to some part satisfy base level urges, just to offset the chance someone becomes like the troll earlier in this thread. After that though... whew.

Certainly there is a healthy balance between satisfying pointless animal urges and learning of what is available outside of pleasure.

If one's conception of freedom and autonomy is to be entertained and pleasure and satisfy their basest levels 100% of their life, than I really see much freedom or autonomy in it. No fun being a slave to one's non-mental drives.

I'm totally a blast at parties and stuff.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Please make a nice list with bullet points because we men are quite thick really.

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My own personal contribution is to not wear cologne, Bod, Ax, or anything like that because the smell overwhelms me and irritates my nose. I don't like perfume either because it does the same. And then you eventually get to that "old man" level of cologne use, and then I can't breathe if I'm in the same room.
Being able to talk about books and literature is also nice, being able to hold intellectual conversation, and having a sense of humor that can appreciate dark humor, sarcasm, and irony.
And being able to understand without making a deal out of things. This one is especially a high priority for me, as I am prone to saying things that are blunt and brutally honest and may come out sounding hurtful and mean, but that is not the intention.

 

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