Succinctly, I don't believe it my place to dictate to peaceful, consenting adults who aren't harming others, how they should live their lives.
Though I agree with anyone who believes that there's a certain type of strength and stability to be found within traditional family systems, I do not believe that there isn't good and stability to be found within nontraditional settings - at least not in blanket label terms.
These aren't black and white issues, not when it comes to people and their individual personalities and capabilities.
Firstly, my last post #187 was probably rubbish, but I can't be bothered to correct it.
We move from what is right once we move from the traditional role, it effects everything. It also snowballs onto other things. I don't think it is a small issue here.
Perhaps in certain situations. Surely, this does happen. But, not always.
Human nature is primordial... that is what we follow, like it or not. It is always nice to fool oneself into thinking other things though, eh.
I don't understand this at all. If men have to live a lie to work with me and interact with me, there's a problem there that extends far beyond me. If a man can't control his primitive urges and coexist with women - there's a problem and the problem is far beyond anything that I can understand.
You misunderstand. Men live a lie when women say they can do anything a man can do, which the can't. It is patently absurd to say they can, and a lie. But we say nothing to keep the peace and pretend that you can. Largely now you can however, as the world in the west is false and therefore easier. This is part of the fractal print of God. The masculine went out first then the feminine. I have no problem with that, I have a problem with the constant lies we have to accept just to make it all work because of militant aggressive vocal women. Even that statement would be frowned upon just because I say something negative against women. So where is the free speech and he equality?
I wholly agree with you, actually. I'm just not willing to dictate to others how they need to live their lives. (Not implying you are.) In my line of work, I work with many people who have foregone responsible family planning and struggle unnecessary. I agree that this does have a direct impact on poverty, crime, and a plethora of other problems.
Steady, you just said you agreed with me... do you want me to edit
I don't wish to speculate as it relates to rape. Regardless as to why an individual rapes, there's no acceptable excuse for it. The only person deserving of blame for rape...is the rapist.
Yet another subject we will not agree on, because there is always provocation. I agree with you, don't get me wrong, but that just sounds like the standard woman's response of, I will do what the heck I want and never mind the consequences. You are half of the world. Your actions and dress and words are important. That is what happen with Je suis Charlie, is it not? Provocation? I am not saying they are right for killing, but, but, but, we have to look at provocation!
When you are little, can you not recall your mother or father saying, Who started it? According to you, that would not matter, it would matter who retaliated to that provocation. Only seems to work in that one topic though, rape. Though I still agree with you.
I'm just me. I'm doing the best that I can in this life, understanding that the only contributions that are most worthwhile are those that have touched others, those selfless actions made from love. I'm far from perfect, but, my decisions are made prayerfully. You're free to judge me as you see fit for working outside of the household, for existing as an equal with my husband and for expressing myself freely.
What's most important to me in my life is my relationship with my God and love. In my faith, when we love, we fulfill God's law to the fullest.
If you are speaking of the NT, then I doubt you are keeping it, and certainly not the OT. So what is this love? You want to debate this via scripture? (or should it have been discuss)
No, sir. I use the term "partner" because he is my best friend. I am HIS wife and it's my most treasured station in life, save for my station of mother. I am delighted to be referred to as his wife because I love him and he loves me. We handle our household as partners, friends, a duo, a pair, etc. We make decisions together. We're there for each other. We take care of each other. We contribute to our household as equally as possible and we both parent our girls.
I'm still me. I haven't lost my identity within my marriage.
But you would not be his wife is you had to ''obey'' as the old marriage contract? Presumably you didn't say that. So the wife is fine because it has a caveat with it.
Depends on the day, really.
So let us all change roles then. You do the dirty jobs and we shall stay home with the kids with out feet on the coffee table. After all, you have had long enough at that, right? You're all for equality, right? So when someone breaks up, let the man have the kids, and the woman can go mental instead, in the interest of equality, right?
I believe so, yes. Patriarchy, even within well-meaning constructs holds a brand of oppression. It just takes one woman who doesn't fit within that construct to acknowledge her unhappiness and hopes for something else.
I don't think you would. Go back to our savage past. I don't think it would be even a thought then.
I've no problem with this as long as she isn't being forced to do this against her will.
It's not a binary thought process.
Think of me what you will. I know what kind of mother I am. I work both of our desire and necessity. I'm fortunate that I'm able to do something that I enjoy that allows me to be accessible for my children as well. It's rather unfair to accuse me of bashing men, when you've just bashed me and any other woman who works.
I don't bash you at all. I am speaking about situations that exist. Women do work and it has broke up the family. The one that used to be thought as the centre of the family, is now the family wrecker. It has effected relationships and has broke them up. This means that there is then more adultery about. Perhaps this is just too big a topic to discuss or perhaps you just think of your own end, women generally do.
Women are biologically suited for carrying and birthing children and require a man to make this happen. That doesn't mean that all women are suited for motherhood or that all men are suited for fatherhood. I believe that women are deserving of opportunity and should not be forced or pressured to live a life of housewife if that's not what makes them happy. I don't believe that men are only deserving of happiness.
Do you not see how you view it? You think that men are happy because they are out of the house, out of the ''Temple'' so therefore, free. You see the position you immediatly take?
Muslims and others may have their subscribed concept of what happiness entails, but, this doesn't apply to everyone. You can't force others to accept such views. I believe mankind to have free will.
Free to do what? If all men, with their supposed ''happiness'' say they are not working anymore, what do you think would happen. The army, police, industry.... you think everything would be okay? So where is this freedom and ''happiness'' that you speak of? You wish to be free. I don't see a man with that. I see men having to do things to provide for his family, and then step aside for that same family when the women decides she doesn't want him anymore, but would like his job, the job he has made.
Either way, as I have already stated (I think) a woman does not have to have a child, but she can help out other women, other mothers to bring up children with far greater social skills. On our local radio, they are jsut talkign about children who turn up hungry, and have to be taught how to brush their teeth! Why? Because women are working so dump their problems onto someone else. It is not acceptable.
We must consider especially, those of the lower classes who do not have the social skills instiinctely within them, and have less ability and less opportunity. That is why women working together as mothers in a 'house-school' would alleviate this. It is the west that has this attitude of being 'free'.