How many girls' dreams is it okay to shatter - in your opinion? What I'm inferring from your questions here - correct me if I'm wrong - is that you think it's more important to empower trans women than it is to empower women?
Rather than couching this in terms that explicitly frame trans inclusion as a negative, why not ask the question: "what ways COULD we include trans people that is fair, equal, and does not put any particular group in a given field at a disadvantage?"
But, nah, scaremongering about trans women in sport is too tasty of an opportunity to pass up. Because, as we all know, everyone who balks about trans women "destroying women's sports" are, and always have been, absolutely massive, massive fans of womens' sports and really, really care about it. Totally.
That's textbook intersectionality theory - ugh.
You also literally have no idea what intersectionality theory is. Literally, that has NOTHING to do with it.
Just like that Stewart Lee extract you love to use (incidentally, Stewart Lee would agree with us and vociferously make fun of you on this topic):
"I may not know what intersectionality is, what best medical care is, what studies say, what doctors say, what definitions are, what sociology is, what a strawman is, how control groups are used, what statistics suggest, what women think, what gay people think, what laws say, what dictionaries say, what a sound argument is, what a fact is, how to cite a source, how to provide evidence, how to support an argument with evidence, why people disagree with Graham Lineham or J.K Rowling, or basic gender theory, but I think... Actually, it's not what I think. IT'S TRUE AND I KNOW IT AND ANYTHING ELSE IS A LIE!"