Well, Ezzedean, as you can surely see - achieving peace is going to be an uphill battle. When people view the Israeli government and army not as a part of this conflict but as the equivalent of some force outside of it that is working towards peace, then we'll not have any progress.
If people condemn only Israeli aggression and not that of the Palestinians, or vice versa, then there is no hope of them being part of the solution. When people can not only tolerate, but also defend the complete destruction of Lebanon as a response to Hezbollah's attack, what does that say about the situation in the world?
When two Israeli soldiers being kidnapped allows them to feel compassion, but the slaughter of more than 800 Lebanese civilians does not, then there is no hope for them being a part of the solution. All we can do is remain true to our faith and not allow ourselves to use our faith as a weapon in desperation.
You should check out Checkpoint Watch, Jews Against the Occupation, Abraham's Vision, and other Jewish/Muslim organizations, Ezzedean. It will keep you from blaming Israelis for this conflict and will certainly keep you from developing negative associations towards Jews. The best way to help, I think, is to support those Israeli groups who are actively trying to achieve peace, and not victory. Who are actively trying to bring an end to their government's policies, instead of openly or through ignorence supporting the occupation and colonization of occupied land.
It's also a safe way to ensure the money you send to help Palestinians actually reaches them. I imagine, though, this year I will give most of my zakat to Lebanon. I want to go there so badly. When the Bosnians in Lebanon arrived in Sarajevo after they were evacuated, their stories were just so heart-breaking. And Jakov Finci was right there, I'm so proud of him and all he does.
And that's all we can do. We can't get involved in these stupid debates in which we're not even speaking from the same level depth of knowledge and level of understanding. There are those who will support Israel against all reason, same as there are those who will support Palestine with the same devotion. With them, there is no hope of finding a solution.
All we can do is join hands with those who want peace, and make sure we include as many Muslim, Jewish, and Christian groups as we can. Just as the Lebanese are now united more than ever, we all have to be united. This won't continue forever. Evil never wins, it will eventually be overcome. We just have to take as much of the burden off the shoulders of those involved as we can.