Pickin up chicks! (or Dating)

[michel]

I date my wife everyday. i don't need to 'pick her up'.

Sometimes (if we go out for a meal) we play at being strangers out on a date. Of course we both have wedding rings, but they only show that we are married (ie it doesn't have to be to each other).

I don't know if people have overheard us, but sometimes it goes like (me to her) "Do you think your husband would be upset if you came back to my place tonight".

If people have overheard, they must think we are awful............

 

[robtex]

Park, library & coffee shops. I don't recommend bars, because been there, done that. Not a place to meet women.

I do ok in the park and coffee scene too. The reason being is those enviroments are very social in nature and making convesation is kinda natural there. I second Mrs Cardero's opinion on bars, though since you are in Detroit maybe greektown could be an acception espically if they still have the art exihibts in some of those buildings (aka hey do you want to see the art exibit at {name place})? People in Detroit aren't very friendly I have noticed and you might have to work the networking angle harder.

I am very skeptical of dating seperated women because I want to make sure they are really not even thinking of going back to their husband otherwise I feel i am cheating ons someone's marriage. I am telling you this cause you are going to meet women who feel this way about dating seperated men. If you are trying to convince them you are not going back to your ex don't rag on her or name a multitude of things you didn't like about her. Just say the marriage didn't work and parting ways is the best option for the both of you. For me it is a big turn-off when a woman really rags on her ex and I bet women will feel the same way about that.

About the networking, don't be shy about letting your friends help you get a date. Also, if you date a woman and you two don't click if you set-her up on a future date chances are she will be more apt to help you. Having women friends is a big plus. They are apt to set you up and hopefully vice versa too.

I have a dating philosophy I can share, but I don't know if it will help or not. I figure every woman I meet where I have a romantic interest will fall into one of three categories:

1) just friends: Usually means no common interests or philosophies. May have been phyically attractive but not so much mentally attractive.

2) causual dating: everything a relationship has except committment. So no moving in combing bank accounts or rings. They can be long term too. I had two in this decade that lasted 8 months each and one of those two I still see from time to time as a mutually agreed casual dating. Usually means philosophically similar interests may or may not be the same but lifestyle incomptable or emotional need not strong enough to justify a relationship.

3) long term/gf: Women I have many or strong common interests with and philosophical outlook. emotional and lifestyle compatablity is strong.

I usually can't make a judgement call on this until sometimes the 5th or 6th date.

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Just give themyour phone numberafter asking if they like sex or you can get even mor blunt. You will be suprised how many call you after thinking it over for awhile. One time after doing this the women slapped me in the face and cursed me out. I walked in the bar a week later and she immediately cameup tome grabbedme and started deep tongue kissin right at the bar. She said.....Lets go.......we went to my car and she just about raped me. Usually you get a more suttle response but it does work. Just try it? On a less agressive side.....just give your waitresses your number on the back of a match book and tell them to call if they would like to get to knowyou.Oh.....one more thing.It really helpsifyou got training in the martial arts just incase someone reacts violently. I got the training and it saved my butt a few times. You will meet women while you are traing. You couldalso find out where you closest Hmong (Laos immigrants) live. Those women are HOT!!!!!!! Vietnamese are the same. Don'tforget those dumbgoofy blondes either.

This is why all women should carry mace.

 

[Mister_T]

Just an update for anyone who's interested. I went shopping Saturday morning for some new clothes. I just walked through the men's department looking at manikins until I felt like I had some idea of what I wanted to buy. I probably spent a hundred bucks on clothes. Then I went out to a friend's B-day party at some kerioki bar. I talked to a lot of girls and saw a few that I wished I would have met. Here's my question: should I be trying to get phone numbers/setting up dates at social events or just having fun? It seems really challenging to get any quality one-on-one time in at a crowded bar.

I agree with what A.E. said. Just concentrate on having fun. Be friendly, introduce yourself. Asking for girls phone number should come off as being natural: Like when you make a new friend and you want to get their phone number to hang out. Have fun with the situation.

Pick up line: "You like to fish?"

Heh. I like that.

 

[Mister_T]

This is why all women should carry mace.

lol:biglaugh:

 

[mrscardero]

This is why all women should carry mace.

I was thinking more in the lines of those watts guns that cops carry. Those electrocution guns incase they can't take the person down.
Shock me Shock me Shock me with those devious behavior.

 

[Quoth The Raven]

Everytime you take 2 steps forward in your relationship, take one step back. This creates tension and leaves her wanting more. I always equate dating to fishing: Throw your line out with some bait. Let her nibble BUT just a little bit. Then reel some of it in. Repeat. Keep doing this, And eventually the fish won't be able to stand it anymore and will go all out to attack your line. That's when you reel it in and the next thing you know you've got dinner

Maybe I'm just odd, but I find this sort of thing incredibly annoying. Two steps forward and one back means you're either playing games - which I personally have no time for - or you don't have the faintest idea what you want - and there's a limit to how long it's worth waiting for you to make up your mind. The other option is that you're hedging your bets in case you get a better offer - which is just plain rude unless you're prepared to be upfront about that. But if you've got the balls to be upfront then you don't need to be pissing about playing games. All of that comes down to a pain in the arse that I could do without. Like I said, maybe I'm just odd, but even if that's the case I sincerely doubt I'm the Lone Ranger.
The thing you have to remember with fishing is that there's always a brilliant catch that you lament as the one who got away because you did something stupid like play it too long and it threw the line before you got it in the net.

 

[Bangbang]

This is why all women should carry mace.

I love a blast Mace in the face!

 

[Mister_T]

Maybe I'm just odd, but I find this sort of thing incredibly annoying. Two steps forward and one back means you're either playing games - which I personally have no time for - or you don't have the faintest idea what you want - and there's a limit to how long it's worth waiting for you to make up your mind. The other option is that you're hedging your bets in case you get a better offer - which is just plain rude unless you're prepared to be upfront about that. But if you've got the balls to be upfront then you don't need to be pissing about playing games. All of that comes down to a pain in the arse that I could do without. Like I said, maybe I'm just odd, but even if that's the case I sincerely doubt I'm the Lone Ranger.
The thing you have to remember with fishing is that there's always a brilliant catch that you lament as the one who got away because you did something stupid like play it too long and it threw the line before you got it in the net.

I knew I'd get one of these sooner or later! Haha! I live in L.A. This is how girls are over here. All of the hot girls over here play games. I'd love it if they didn't, but unfortunatley it doesn't work that way. Maybe Australian girls are different. I don't know.

If your an attractive female you get hit on multiple time a day. Girls over here have guys eating out of the palm of their hands. They know they can have pretty much any guy they want at the snap of a finger. So you gotta seperate yourself from every guy and do something different. Like fishing! This way the girls are chasing you. Otherwise you end up with another pretty friend who is going to date other guys in front of you while knowing you like her. Not a good feeling.

Ormiston was complaining how he always falls into the friend trap. I'm telling him how not to. I'm telling him how to create sexual tension and how to get girls to attack him!

I don't want to play games and I'm sure Ormiston doesn't either. But just because we don't want to doesn't mean that girls aren't going to. I never told him not to be upfront. I never told him to lie. And I never told him to wait for a better offer. You're making assumptions about me. *tsk* *tsk* Ormiston knows what he wants. He wants hot chicks. Hot chicks play games. I'm just telling him how to play the game back. If he happens to come across any that don't, even better!

 

[angellous_evangellous]

I love a blast Mace in the face!

I was too subtle...

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Online dating sites haven't worked for me, if that helps. I've gotten a few IM names, a couple phone numbers (no phone calls though) and even one written letter, but nothing more.

Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time.

That is all eharmony has shown me for well over a year.

 

[angellous_evangellous]

All of the hot girls over here play games.

:ignore:

Girls over here have guys eating out of the palm of their hands.

you gotta seperate yourself from every guy and do something different. Like fishing!

Have you ever seen Napolean Dynamite?

This way the girls are chasing you.

Don't listen to Napolean! It sounds good, but you'll end up hooked up to a Time Machine wondering why your nads are fried.

Otherwise you end up with another pretty friend who is going to date other guys in front of you while knowing you like her. Not a good feeling.

No.. no... no... Be a nice guy. Build relationships. Nothing wrong with having several lady friends. If you build it, they will come (pun intended ).

Ormiston was complaining how he always falls into the friend trap. I'm telling him how not to. I'm telling him how to create sexual tension and how to get girls to attack him!

By telling him to get "skills?!"

I don't want to play games and I'm sure Ormiston doesn't either.

You want people saying this about you.

But just because we don't want to doesn't mean that girls aren't going to. I never told him not to be upfront. I never told him to lie. And I never told him to wait for a better offer. You're making assumptions about me. *tsk* *tsk* Ormiston knows what he wants. He wants hot chicks. Hot chicks play games. I'm just telling him how to play the game back. If he happens to come across any that don't, even better!

You told him to go fishing.

Fishing.:areyoucra

 

[Darkdale]

Top 5 places to pick up chicks:

1. A Church.
2. Buy a dog and walk it wherever women are.
3. Places of Hobby. If there are things that you like to do where women are present... go to those places more often.
4. Take a job working for a charity.
5. The gym

 

[Mister_T]

Have you ever seen Napolean Dynamite?

nope

Don't listen to Napolean! It sounds good, but you'll end up hooked up to a Time Machine wondering why your nads are fried.

That's unpleasent.

No.. no... no... Be a nice guy. Build relationships. Nothing wrong with having several lady friends. If you build it, they will come (pun intended ).

Never told him not to be nice.

By telling him to get "skills?!"

Never told him that either. Whole lot of assuming going on.
I told him how to play the game if it gets played on him.

You want people saying this about you.

You told him to go fishing.

Fishing.:areyoucra

Yes, fishing is a nice analogy. "Give a man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish and he eats for life"

 

[angellous_evangellous]

No.. no... no... Be a nice guy. Build relationships. Nothing wrong with having several lady friends. If you build it, they will come (pun intended ).

I actually got fruballed for this!

:clap "Finally... a man with a brain":clap

Put that in your smipe and poke it BangBang!

 

[angellous_evangellous]

"Give a man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish and he eats for life"

Napolean said this just before he fed his llama.:faint:

 

[Mister_T]

Napolean said this just before he fed his llama.:faint:

Napolean sounds like he knows his stuff

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Don't let Mister T pick out your clothes!

You can get sympathy sex just by letting everyone know you're going through a divorce (note that I said not whining). Just let it out in 'small talk.' It's code for "I haven't had good sex in three years, but I know what I'm doing."

You don't need to feed the fire with bad lines, bad clothes, and bad strategy. :tsk:

 

[Mister_T]

Don't let Mister T pick out your clothes!

You can get sympathy sex just by letting everyone know you're going through a divorce. You don't need to feed the fire with bad lines, bad clothes, and bad strategy. :tsk:

Ha! Call it whatever you want but it works for me and plenty of other guys.

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Wow. You edited your post to add yet another insult. Keep spitting those judgemental preconceived notions of yours A.E. You sure are quick to judge. Not a big suprise.

:slap: