Pickin up chicks! (or Dating)

[angellous_evangellous]

..... and no cheesey pick up lines! i got a really cheesey pick up line once, it was such a turn off :149:

Dang! All this time I thought that you were one of the guys! :banghead3

I really need to start paying attention to the profiles. First Sunstone and now this.

 

[Booko]

Well, I'm now single (relax ladies ). My wife and I seperated and I thought it would be good for me to get some dating tips from the guys AND gals (I know, "stay off of the religious forums! He he hehehe"). So any advice would be greatly appreciated. Here's some questions I had in mind:

You're just separated? Be careful of rushing into something before you've finished off this relationship. Rebounds are not fun.

What does "dating" even mean any more? Most of the time I hear anyone twentysomething say they are "dating" someone, it seems to translate to "sleeping with" someone.

But ok...haha remember you did ask for it...

Where's the best place to meet other single people? I've heard the laundramat was good.

Grocery stores on Monday night also. Also...what do you like to do? If you like to read...hang out in bookstores. If you like tennis, show up at the club. And so on.

What makes a good date? Dinner & a movie? Walk in the park?

Ask her what she likes to do.

What does everyone think about younger vs. older girls (guys)? I'm 30.

I married a guy a few years younger than me. Hey, we chicks live longer anyway. Everyone else I dated was older, though.

I think it depends on individual cases. There are many women out there who would prefer a man who's a little older, more established, and GROWN UP compared to guys in their early 20s. Then again, you might want someone more on a par with you.
Keep an open mind on this one.

Do women really prefer jerks? I'm kind of nerdy and I don't know if a nerdy jerk would be very attractive.

Nerds are very attractive. The guys who are built like a brick ****house and know it are obnoxious and wear on you very soon. What woman wants to spend her life assuaging a fragile male ego?

Should I "just be myself"? A friend told me that I shouldn't talk about nerdy things to women I'm interested in. I'm convinced though that it doesn't matter what you talk about but how you carry yourself.

OK, so suppose you eventually get married. If you don't talk to her about things you like before, exactly what are you going to talk about afterwards?

Besides, it depends on the woman. If you wanted to talk to me years ago, it'd better be motorcycles, guns, chess, wargames, scifi books, or science. Well, I married a guy who can talk about chess and wargames and science at least.

I have next to no style when it comes to clothes. Any advice there?

Yeah, watch "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy." They absolutely know what they're doing, and it's a real laugh too. Other than that, shower, use deodorant, and comb your hair. Either shave or grow a beard...no stubble, please.

And there's one final bit of dating advice that works for any gender and any orientation.

Know yourself well. Know what you are and especially are NOT willing to live with. If someone you're dating shows a character trait that you in no way can live with -- MOVE ON. It's not a reflection on either of you to do so, and pretending it's not a problem is a waste of your time and your date's.

I myself could never tolerate a man whose ego is so fragile that he can't stand it if I'm right sometimes or if I beat him at a game.

In college, my roomates used to make jokes about the "pool test." I loved to shoot pool (made all my vacation money doing so too). Anyone I was thinking about being interested in, we'd shoot pool in the Student Union. If they got all upset because I beat them (and I do try to be a gracious winner) or tried to make excuses for why they lost (the subtext: to a GIRL!!!), then I'd ditch them tout suite. If they complimented me on my skill or said "great game!" they were a keeper.

I know myself very well in this regard and I could never tolerate having to go through life pretending to be stupid and incompetent to make my husband happy.

Because of my rather ruthless (or maybe just straightforward) approach, I ended up marrying a guy who appreciates a woman who can stand on her own and is a challenge to his intellect.
He could never have tolerated someone who was overly dependent. We've been married almost 21 years now, so something musta worked.

OK, well enough advice from your haha virtual "Mom." And if you're 30, then I'm probably old enough to be your mom too. :slap:

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Personally, I think that our friend misrepresented his age. I'm voting for 34 at least, perhaps even 36.

But I've been wrong before. I just hope he didn't listen to BangBang.

 

[Booko]

Awesome! Thanks Dave!

One more question. When approaching someone in a bar or anywhere else, how do you start the conversation? I get so damn nervous and usually act shy (which I'm not). I just don't know how to BEGIN. Once I get going I'm fine though.

How about "Hi, I'm Ormiston"?

Sheesh, guys why can't you just keep it SIMPLE?

Anything else is too fake, and makes y'all look damned silly.

You really should hear what women talk about in the ladies rooms in bars.

 

[Booko]

That's not really necessary.

You'll know if you're attracted to someone. Then you just go with your gut.

I've always found guys lame who rely on their friends to hook them up.

Oh,so would I. But I thought the reference was to helping male friends with "couture 101." I've done that a few times.

Moms teach their girls how to shop, mostly. For some weird reason, they don't think their sons need to know about how to shop or build a wardrobe, or essential hygiene. And then we complain when men are incompetent at it? Really, women only have themselves to blame for this...we should be better moms to begin with. <shaking head>

My son cooks, does his own laundry, can find a deal at the grocery store like any good shopping woman, and though he dresses simply, he knows what things are fashion faux.

 

[Booko]

I will be back in a bit. Hopefully, I can get some advice from WOMEN!

Really! I'm late coming in to this thread, but the only woman here so far is Dawny! sheesh

You guys are a hoot, but you should probably keep your day job. :biglaugh:

 

[Booko]

Those are the most awesome boxers. Ever.

Nope. The best ones are from Joe's Crab Shack. You know the ones. Picture of a crab. Says, "Bite me"

Can't beat 'em.

Oh, I found a pair of boxers for my husband that had ostriches all over them...with their heads stuck in the ground. Those were great too.

I'm so glad he gave up tighty whities. It's much more fun to shop for him now. :woohoo:

 

[Booko]

Personally, I think that our friend misrepresented his age. I'm voting for 34 at least, perhaps even 36.

But I've been wrong before. I just hope he didn't listen to BangBang.

I hope so too. And if Ormiston did, I hope he enjoys his hospital stay.

 

[Mister_T]

Well Mister_T has just been put in better company than he deserves.

A.E.'s just hatin' because my skills in pimp-ology far surpass his.

 

[Mister_T]

Don't hate the playa' A.E. Hate the game.

 

[dawny0826]

Don't hate the playa' A.E. Hate the game.

Okay guys...please note...if you approach a female wearing something like this...we probably WILL run away...as quickly...as possible...

Look at all that red! Yikes!

And he's sportin' the Cruella de Vil look with that coat...mmmhhh so (not) sexay!:149:

 

[dawny0826]

Mr_T and BangBang out on the town

Napoleon would be a fun date.

 

[Ormiston]

Personally, I think that our friend misrepresented his age. I'm voting for 34 at least, perhaps even 36.

Hey, watch it...that's a sensitive issue for me now. )(

Orniston you realise this thread is going to keep coming back to life every so often when someone sees it, loves it, and wants to add something don't you? When you're sixty you'll come back here and see post #36992.

Yeah, if A_E has anything to say about it.

You're just separated? Be careful of rushing into something before you've finished off this relationship. Rebounds are not fun.

What does "dating" even mean any more? Most of the time I hear anyone twentysomething say they are "dating" someone, it seems to translate to "sleeping with" someone.

Well, it's been about six weeks since I started this thread and I think it's fair to give an update on my situation and see if any of this "advice" has done me any good. For starters, I'm still seperated! :bounce It's for the best. We're both happier (so far). Secondly, I haven't had a date (she has though ). And I guess she got a 10 second "frencher" too...

The main reason I haven't had a date is because I've been trying to focus on getting some respectable measure of stability back in my life. I've been living in a 4' x 6' broom closet at a friends house for almost two months now. The good news is that I'm moving into a very nice condo this weekend. I've been seeing my daughter frequently too. But, enough about that, back to the chicks!

On a serious note, I've revised my "Dating Philosophy" a bit. I had an epiphony recently and I'd like to share it with everyone: I'm going to get to know the chick(s) before I sleep with them. I know it's "Out There" but I'm going to give it a try. Also, I've decided to have standards and not just take the first to come along. I'm confident with these new insights and all of the great "advice" (BangBang), I'll be the next one to get a 7-10 second "frencher".

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Yeah, if A_E has anything to say about it.

Just help'n a brotha out.

Spring is the best time of year for this kind of thing. The entire natural world is horny... women just know it's time. :highfive:

My wife can't figure out why I've been humming It's the most wonderful time of the year...

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Don't hate the playa' A.E. Hate the game.

Hey man, I'm winning right now, so the game is just fine with me.

 

[Ormiston]

Just help'n a brotha out.

Spring is the best time of year for this kind of thing. The entire natural world is horny... women just know it's time. :highfive:

My wife can't figure out why I've been humming It's the most wonderful time of the year...

And I need all the help I can get!

Hmmmm...maybe I'll give my ex a call tonight...nahh.

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Hmmmm...maybe I'll give my ex a call tonight...nahh.

I'm really sorry for your loss. I hope that you find peace and happiness soon.

The "update" post brought out my dark, violent, and jealous side.:devil:

 

[Mister_T]

Hey man, I'm winning right now, so the game is just fine with me.

How do ya figure? :sarcastic

 

[Mister_T]

And I need all the help I can get!

Hmmmm...maybe I'll give my ex a call tonight...nahh.

Play the jealousy card Ormi. Works like a charm.

 

[evearael]

Spring is the best time of year for this kind of thing. The entire natural world is horny... women just know it's time. :highfive:

Sigh, so true. I'm going to go insane if I don't get pregnant soon. Doesn't help I need to have my heart electrocuted first.

Play the jealousy card Ormi. Works like a charm.

Sad, but true.

I'm going to get to know the chick(s) before I sleep with them. I know it's "Out There" but I'm going to give it a try. Also, I've decided to have standards and not just take the first to come along.

Good!