Is not! It's terrifying! It might cause you to bond with someone!!!!
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Teens: Questions about sex? Get them answered.
- Thread starter Alceste
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Is not! It's terrifying! It might cause you to bond with someone!!!!
Haha could you resist sex for 10 years or more...starting right now. I doubt it. After you have then tell me whether its harder to abstain from sex or resist junk food.
This sadly is the kind of thinking that has spread AIDS and other STD's in the first place. While you might be able to ensure your monogamous (which I can respect), you cannot guarantee your partner is doing the same. I would practice safe sex with any and every partner until both of us were fully tested, even then there is still a possibility it could go undetected.
richardlowellt
Well-Known Member
Still better than the Pope saying "Aids is horrible but condoms are worse
T-Dawg
Self-appointed Lunatic
Quite true, especially for women (for some reason the chemical reaction for sex is different for them). But even if it didn't cause bonding, the feel alone would still be terrifying... the orgasm I got from masturbation was rather scary, and people are saying that sex is 100 times more intense...
Her point was not that she could resist sex, her point was that he shouldn't have to resist the urge to do something that she wanted to do. I find that kind of thinking dangerous, myself.
d3vaLL
Member
Just come out and say it, you hate sex and want it to go away.
T-Dawg
Self-appointed Lunatic
Yes, I want it to go away
. If it weren't for sex, I wouldn't have all these hormones whacking up my emotions....Besides, sex is scary. Haven't I made that clear?
Are you on any pills? That can screw with your sexual performance. Sometimes you need some experimentation to see what turns you on and off.
darkendless
Guardian of Asgaard
Is it not a good/relieving feeling for you?
Why would you ever want to? There is nothing wrong with sex so why should you abstain?
What difference does being married have on if your SO is cheating on you or not?
blackout
Violet.
Well, and your future spouse could be bringing something undetected to the marriage bed as well. Marriage is no guarantee of ANYTHING.
Alceste
Vagabond
Except God's approval of your sex life. (As long as it's for procreation only).
Mr Cheese
Well-Known Member
Actually it gets easier to abstain from sex after 3 or 4 years.... if you dont masturbate
I am on 3 years and 9 months now. It hasn't gotten easier yet. Especially when I am just so darn sexxxah!
idea
Question Everything
I did not read through the entire thread, but it seems everyone is focusing on STD’s rather than the emotional impact sex has. IMO the emotional impact that sex has on a person greatly supersedes any STD. Our body is the only thing that we have our entire life – you can get a new car/house/friends come and go – you body is the only constant through it all. What happens to your body stays with you your entire life.
To be unique, to be someone’s one and only, loyalty, self-control… for those who seek that joining of souls, that most intimate of relationship, that union found only in the eternal bonds of marriage, rather than superficial short lived immature one night stands… For people who want something more to life, for those who want a more meaningful union, abstinence is a must.
Sex before marriage robs those who partke in it of what they could have had if they had waited.
Make your first and all marriage nights something sacred and pure and special.
Let your soul mate know that you love them enough to wait for them.
Show some dignity and self-control.
you can wait.
To be unique, to be someone’s one and only, loyalty, self-control… for those who seek that joining of souls, that most intimate of relationship, that union found only in the eternal bonds of marriage, rather than superficial short lived immature one night stands… For people who want something more to life, for those who want a more meaningful union, abstinence is a must.
Sex before marriage robs those who partke in it of what they could have had if they had waited.
Make your first and all marriage nights something sacred and pure and special.
Let your soul mate know that you love them enough to wait for them.
Show some dignity and self-control.
you can wait.
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T-Dawg
Self-appointed Lunatic
No, quite the opposite, it was a scary feeling, and it was not relieving at all (sex is inherently non-relieving, as it is fueled by insatiable desire and excitement, whereas relief is from the cuddly, slow, relaxing feelings). It felt sorta like that one time a girl I liked in middle school tried to rip my soul out while we were in high school, magnified to my pelvis region. It was like a nocturnal emission with an electric current running through it. It felt sorta like The Evil was trying to take a hold on me for the two seconds it lasted. I remember gasping for breath as something squeezed my lower abdomen and ran a magical shockwave into my penis.
Gah, now I know why all those adults never would tell me what sex felt like... it's impossible to describe...
Ask not why you shouldn't have sex, but rather, why you would want to. =/
Well, marriage used to be a big deal. It was a religious commitment. It was a private promise before God that a man and a woman made to stay together for the rest of their lives. Back then, there weren't a lot of fancy ceremonies or anything, a man just took a woman into his house and had sex with her, and she was then his wife that he had to provide for (unless her father really hated him or something). And most people did stay together.
Then someone (the Romans, I think) decided it was a good idea to make marriage a legal matter. The idea stuck and the US thinks of marriage as a legal contract that can be broken with no more guilt than any other legal contract. They see it as a deal that they can null at any time, instead of a commitment to someone they love.
And I think that's sad, and some people agree with me. Some people (like me) just don't want to give up on the idea that people who love eachother can form a permanent commitment, and that the permanent commitment can last a lifetime.
Mr Cheese
Well-Known Member
You're at the tough stage....
In a year or two your libido will begin to dwindle...
that is if you arent masturbating...
I know a guy that didnt ejaculate for 25 years.
It was only when he began masturbating after that period did his libido return
I've gone years without sex, but I didnt stop mastrubating....
I dont think asceticsm is all that healthy, I think a fine balance is far better, asceticism has its place, but it should be used to produce a result, once we have achieved a result we should move on. This is where I disagree with extreme catholics or mormons or anyone that is an ascetic, the body is the temple of God, and it shouldnt be polluted, but then everythign is of God... I see nothign wrong with everythign in moderation and simply acting like an adult and having discernement. This means through moderation I eat meat and drink alcohol in small amounts..and I masturbate on occaison. Through discernement I dont drink arsenic or spread feces on my face in the morning.
But whatever works for you....ultimatly that is really the message of most spiritual teachers...learn, follow then DO IT YOURSELF..... dont get trapped into thinking you need to walk in someone else's EXACT same footsteps, as you are not them...you have your own spiritual and physical needs. A person's digestive tract is as unique to them as a finger print, that is a part of the way the universe is, there really is no such thing as exact duplicates. We find this in chaos theory where we have the concept of self similarity. James Gleik in his book describes how in fractals (complex mathematical shapes) are self similar. That the original image is repated, for infinity. But it is subtle.... the repition is never exactly the same, the repeated image is always SLIGHTLY different.... Wiki of course differs slightly in its explantion of the trerm self simlarity, it is however wrong..a simple exploration of the mandelbrot set reveals that the original image is indeeed repeated, for infinity, but it is NEVER eaxctly the same......
But I'm rambling
Mr Cheese
Well-Known Member
well this is garbage....
no1 marriage as we understand it in modern times is less than a few thousand years old.... in fact in europe for example, peasants didnt really get married, that was for the gentry....
Someone can be in a commited emotionally entangled relationship without marriage...and still have a healthy sex life.
My girl friends parents for example got married after living together for 25 years...Were they robbing themselves of something for 25 years?
Everyone is different, some people feel or need a strong emotional attachemnt before and during sex, or they just prefer it.
Some men AND women are happy to treat sex as sport, or a physical activity.... like it or lump it, think it bad or good, some people are very happy just having sex....
proclomations that one must be married before they can have meaningful sex are backward, antiquated and simply untrue. But you have to remeber people were lobotomising women and putting acid in female genitals less than a century ago if a woman showed any enjoyment of sex.
To conclude, it is not the 1840's, people have sex, some treat it with some or a great deal of respect, others do not. To assume that one must be married, before any emotional connection or commitment can occur is simply backward; homosapiens evolve their attitudes, thank fully. Until we return to removing a woman's ability to have cognitive thought, for having an orgasm, I think it is time to admit that sex before marriage can be uplifiting, emotionally, physically and spiritually, if it is done right...and that in the end, it is some one else's choice and their body...not yours
Mr Cheese
Well-Known Member
The romans arguyably "invented" monogamy, as seen in western society
The also promoted and ran state run brothels and had public orgies..... that's the romans for you.
As for sex and your none enjoyment, I assure you it gets better, its your choice to abstain, but honestly, practice makes perfect...the more you participate the more you will understand...and no one is lying, people ENJOY sex.... a great deal