That’s a true pity, especially if it turns out that transitioning is not the answer.
My best friend growing up transitioned to female. In her case it seemed the right decision. As male, he was conflicted, confused, unhappy in every way. For years before she began transitioning, she had to see therapist after therapist, doctor after doctor of all kinds of specialties. She even went to John’s Hopkins in Baltimore for consultations. Finally she was determined to be eligible to transition. This all took place in the late 1970s.
However, it was in slow small steps … affecting female appearance, i.e. her clothing, hairstyles, etc. Then came the hormone treatments. I don’t know if she ever had surgery because we lost touch. I did I come to find out that was living fully as a woman, and was now finally happy. I found out not too long ago, through Facebook of all places, that she passed away. I saw a response to condolence messages to her family from a sister who said (paraphrasing) she lived her life her way, was happy and made other people happy.
But it should come as no surprise that everything is instant this, instant that today. And what if transitioning is not the answer? Maybe hormonal changes can be reversed, but once the surgery is done …